[twise]

"just because my perp is not capable of loving, does not mean his victim is unloveable"


this was just something that came up in chat, and it was suggested that i put it on here. this was a important realization of me being able to start healing. We are not flawed or unloveable! when i realized this i was able to forgive my perp, not for him but for myself. ~twise

[rinoa]

I don't know where this came from but my a good friend wrote it out for me when I was in hospital:

"I want to live with all my memories
Even if they're bad memories
Even if they're memories that only hurt me
Even f they're memories that I'd rather forget
If I keep them and keep trying, without running away...
If I keep trying, then someday...
Someday I'll be strong enough that those memories can't defeat me
I believe that
I want to believe that
Because I want to think that there's no such thing as a memory thats ok to forget"


And some biblical ones:

"It is your own face that you see reflected in the water and it is your own self that you see in your heart" (proverb 27:19)

"A lie has a short life but the truth lifes forever" (proverb 12:19)

"Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you" (John 14:27)

"May God the Lord guide me to safety, may God's angels hide me from harm, may saints gather near me to quieten my fears and all my worries calm" (just a prayer I found)


rinoa x

[BalletDancer]

something that I very much love to remember is something my dance teacher told me about dreams. I had defined my dream of pointe so clearly that it hurt when it was broken and she told me that you can't put dreams in boxes, they have to be allowed room to grow and change or else they'll break and you'll have many broken hearts.

it's not really a quote, but it rather is like one.

[Elle_MNOP]

Those are all amazing...thank you to everyone who posted them.

[thriver]

Great Thread! I love quotes and have several on my website.

"It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts" ~ Robert H. Schuller

"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heal that has crushed it." ~ Mark Twain

"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning to sail my ship." ~ Louisa May Alcott

[dora]

"never grow a wishbone, daughter, where a backbone ought to be" ~ clementine paddleford

"no one can make you feel inferior without your consent" ~ eleanor roosevelt

"you may have to fight a battle more than once to win it" ~ margaret thatcher

"i will have here but one mistress and no master" ~ elizabeth I

"the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different result" ~ albert einstein

"we teach people how to treat us" ~ dr phil

"i am not a has been. i am a will be" ~ lauren bacall

"in the middle of difficulty lies opportunity" ~ albert einstein

"they say that time changes thing, but you actually have to change them yourself" ~ andy worhol

"the future depends on what we do in the present" ~ mahatma gandhi

"anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new" ~ albert einstein

"it is not the strongest of the species that survive, but the one most responsive to change" ~ charles darwin

"sometimes we misuse power by not standing up for ourselves, by being powerless. this is called spiritual slavery" ~ tori amos

"i had to look at how members of victims anonymous could wear badges on their sleeves and hold everyone hostage to their victimisation" ~ tori amos

dora
x

[Haullie]

"turn your wounds into wisdom" -Oprah

[Epona]

Here are some of my favourite quotes:

"The longest way round is the shortest way home"-C.S. Lewis
"I am a part of all that I have met"-Lord Alfred Tennyson
"There is no use having an open mind unless you have an open heart"-P.K. Shaw
"Whether you think you can or you can't, you are right"- Henry Ford
"We must make the world worthy of its children"
"The meaning of life is a life of meaning"
"Happiness is a way of travel, not a destination"
"I am not young enough to know everything"-Oscar Wilde
"What the mind can conceive, the mind can achieve"-Clement Stone
"Either no individual of the human species has genuine rights, or all have the same rights;
and he who votes against the rights of another, whatever the persons religion,
colour or sex, forgoes his own rights"-Marquis de Condorcet
"Show me a sane man and I will cure him for you"-Carl Jung
"People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it"
"The best way to predict the future is to create it"
"whatever you vividly imagine
ardently desire
sincerely believe
and enthusiastically act upon
must inevitably come to pass"
"Things do not change: we change"-Henry David Thoreau
"And now here is my secret,
a very simple secret; it is only with the heart that one can see rightly
what is essential is invisible to the eye"-Antoine de Saint Exupery
"I never let my schooling interfere with my education"-Mark Twain
"At the end it is not the years in your life that count, it is the life in your years"-Abraham Lincoln
"They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them"-Gandhi
""Live as if you were to die tomorrow,
Learn as if you were to live forever"-Gandhi
"No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another"-Charles Dickens
"Do not go where the path may lead,
go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Nothing has a stronger influence on children than the unlived life of the parent"-Carl Jung
"The person who doesn't make mistakes is unlikely to make anything"
"Life is too short. Or too long. You decide"
"Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they
are capable of being"-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
"The only real mistake is one from which we learn nothing"-John Powell
"Do all the good you can
by all the means you can
in all the ways you can
in all the places you can
at all the times you can
to all the people you can
as long as you ever can"-John Wesley
"What we do for ourselves dies with us.
What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal"-Albert Pine
"Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling
with the mistaken belief that you cannot bear the pain.
But you have already borne the pain.
What you have not done is feel all that you are beyond that pain"-Kahlil Gibran
"Nothing is so bad that you can't make it worse,
and nothing is so good that you can't make it better"
"Sophie...you are living in a wondrous universe on a tiny planet in one of many
hundred billion galaxies...and you are talking about grades! You ought to be ashamed
of yourself"-Jostein Gaarder "Sophie's World"
"To be old and wise you must first be young and stupid"
"To the world you might be one person, but to one person you might be the world"
"...and forget not that the Earth delights to feel your bare feet,
and the winds long to play with your hair"-Kahlil Gibran
"There are no shortcuts to any place worth going"-Beverly Sills
"You can give without loving, but you can't love without giving"-Amy Carmicheal
"If there is light in the soul
there will be beauty in the person
if there is beauty in the person
there will be harmony in the house
if there is harmony in the house
there will be order in the nation
if there is order in the nation
there will be peace in the world"-Chinese Proverb

[Reese]

Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did. ~Newt Gingrich

There is no telling how many miles you will have to run while chasing a dream. ~Author Unknown

Don't be discouraged. It's often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock. ~Author Unknown

The important thing is this: To be able at any moment to sacrifice that which we are for what we could become. ~Charles DuBois


Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time. ~Betty Smith, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn

Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got. ~Janis Joplin

In this age, which believes that there is a short cut to everything, the greatest lesson to be learned is that the most difficult way is, in the long run, the easiest. ~Henry Miller, The Books in My Life

"It's a dangerous business, Frodo, going out of your door," he used to say. "You step into the Road, and if you don't keep your feet, there is no knowing where you might be swept off to." ~J.R.R. Tolkien, "Three Is Company," The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring, 1954

The road that is built in hope is more pleasant to the traveler than the road built in despair, even though they both lead to the same destination. ~Marian Zimmer Bradley

Adversity is like a strong wind. It tears away from us all but the things that cannot be torn, so that we see ourselves as we really are. ~Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha

That some good can be derived from every event is a better proposition than that everything happens for the best, which it assuredly does not. ~James K. Feibleman

The darkest hour has only sixty minutes. ~Morris Mandel

There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with. ~Harry Crews


I have woven a parachute out of everything broken. ~William Stafford

I'm not old enough to play baseball or football. I'm not eight yet. My mom told me when you start baseball, you aren't going to be able to run that fast because you had an operation. I told Mom I wouldn't need to run that fast. When I play baseball, I'll just hit them out of the park. Then I'll be able to walk. ~Edward J. McGrath, Jr., "An Exceptional View of Life," quoted in Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen, 1993

Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself. ~Michel de Montaigne


It's me who is my enemy
Me who beats me up
Me who makes the monsters
Me who strips my confidence.
~Paula Cole, "Me," This Fire


Oliver Wendell Holmes once attended a meeting in which he was the shortest man present. "Dr. Holmes," quipped a friend, "I should think you'd feel rather small among us big fellows." "I do," retorted Holmes, "I feel like a dime among a lot of pennies." ~Author Unknown


Sorry this is so long, lol. I love quotes and have quite a collection. I love seeing everyone elses as well.
Take care
Reese

[Katie N]

“Some people are afraid of what they might find if they try to analyse themselves too much, but you have to crawl into your wounds to discover where your fears are. Once the bleeding starts, the cleansing can begin.” Tori Amos

[cattt]

“I live in a world where the two truths coexist; where both hell and hope lie in the palm of my hand.”
- Alice Sebold

life is what happens when your making other plans."
- John Lennon

In Germany they first came for the Communists,
and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Communist.

Then they came for the Jews,
and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Jew.

Then they came for the trade unionists,
and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Catholics,
and I didn't speak up because I was a Protestant.

Then they came for me —
and by that time no one was left to speak up.

Pastor Martin Niemöller


IF I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain;
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in vain.

Emily Dickinson


Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.
Dr. Napoleon Hill

"Moral indignation is jealousy with a halo."
- H. G. Wells (1866-1946)

"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former."
Albert Einstien

"The power of accurate observation is frequently called cynicism by those who don't have it."
- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)

"I'm all in favor of keeping dangerous weapons out of the hands of fools. Let's start with typewriters."
- Frank Lloyd Wright (1868-1959)

"I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them."
- Ian L. Fleming (1908-1964)

"All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident."
- "Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860)

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.."
-Confucius.

The real wealth is happiness, not money, the real poverty is ignorance, not want of money."
- Buddhist saying.

"A warrior never worries about his fear."
---- Carlos Castaneda

"Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it."
-Confucius

this is my bunch! thanks SO much for all of the amazing quotes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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[Jules]

"One cannot consent to creep, when one feels an impulse to soar"
-Helen Keller.

[halo]

"Two or three things I know for sure, but none of them is why a man would rape a child, why a man would beat a child."

"Two or three things I know for sure, and one of them is how long it takes to learn to love yourself, how long it took me, how much love I need now."
-Dorothy Allison 'Two or Three Things I Know for Sure'

"One man in Brooklyn came to my reading smelling like a gangrenous foot. He had the most disgusting breath, which was made all the more revolting by his lack of teeth. When he spoke, he gummed the words out. 'I wuved wur book.'
But then, look at me. My brain is incorrectly formed, and I'm shaped like a tuba. Plus, I'm an alcoholic, a 'survivor' of childhood sexual abuse, and raised in a cult and have no education. So, really, if you think about it, the only thing that separates me from the guy with the stinky foot and no teeth is a book deal and some cologne."
-Augusten Burroughs 'Magical Thinking: True Stories'

"Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear."
-Albert Camus 'Notebooks'

"Don't wait for the Last Judgment. It takes place every day"
-Albert Camus 'The Fall'

"We accept the love we think we deserve."
-Stephen Chobosky 'The Perks of Being a Wallflower'

"What does it mean to regret? When you have no choice, it's what you can bear. It was death, I chose life."
-Michael Cunningham 'The Hours'

"To go wrong in one's own way is better than to go right in someone else's."

"If he has a conscience he will suffer for his mistake. That will be his punishment--as well as the prison."
-Fyodor Dostoevsky 'Crime and Punishment'

"In my younger and more vulnerable years my father gave me some advice that I've been turning over in my mind ever since. 'Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone,' he told me, 'just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had.'"
-F. Scott Fitzgerald 'The Great Gatsby'

"Some of us know how we came by our fortune and some of us don't, but we wear it all the same. There's only one question worth asking now: How do we aim to live with it?"
-Barbara Kingsolver 'The Poisonwood Bible'

"Its so hard to hard to forget pain, but its even harder to remember sweetness."

"We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace."
-Chuck Palahniuk 'Diary'

[Undine]

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

In the midst of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer. Albert Camus

You may trod me in the very dirt But still, like dust, I'll rise. Maya Angelou

If you always watch the demons behind you, then you will never see the angels ahead.

Don't cry when the sun is gone, because the tears won't let you see the stars. Violeta Parra

The soul would have no rainbow had the eye no tears. John Vance Cheney

You must remember this: You are braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. A. A. Milne

She was not defined either by a name or by shameful experience; instead, she was formed by dreams and hopes, by aspirations, by self respect and perseverance. She wasn’t clay in the hands of others; she was rock, and with her own determined hands, she could sculpt the person that she wanted to be. Intensity, Dean Koontz

Damaged people are dangerous. They know they can survive. Josephine Hart

Rock bottom is good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around. Buddy Buie and J.R. Cobb

But then again, maybe bad things happen because it's the only way we can keep remembering what good is supposed to look like. Nineteen Minutes, Jodie Picoult

Sometimes you have to leap and build your wings on the way down.

[emililishka]

Yesterday ended last night, and today is your brand new day!

Zig Ziglar