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SU related posts how much detail....? or none at all?

#1 User is offline   lilyvanilla 

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Posted 09 September 2011 - 02:02 AM

I read the SU Guidelines but that post didn't say anything about this which is why I'm asking here.

So exactly how much detail are we allowed to give in SU posts? As in, if we survive an attempt what should go in that post? Or we not allowed? And by 'details' I mean how it happened.

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Posted 09 September 2011 - 03:06 AM

PM a moderator l suggest and ask your specific question to someone that would know.

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Posted 09 September 2011 - 03:17 AM

View PostOnetofortynine, on 09 September 2011 - 03:06 AM, said:

PM a moderator l suggest and ask your specific question to someone that would know.


ok thanks.

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Posted 09 September 2011 - 04:46 AM

Did you get a response lilyvanilla?
Sometimes with questions like you are asking here you may as well go straight to the source of people that keep the site running smoothly.
If they don't know they can find out quickly.
My bet is that they have answered this or very similar before.
They know how important it is to have questions answered and safely ..
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Posted 09 September 2011 - 05:10 AM

View PostOnetofortynine, on 09 September 2011 - 04:46 AM, said:

Did you get a response lilyvanilla?
Sometimes with questions like you are asking here you may as well go straight to the source of people that keep the site running smoothly.
If they don't know they can find out quickly.
My bet is that they have answered this or very similar before.
They know how important it is to have questions answered and safely ..
:hug:/>


wasn't sure where to ask, so.

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Posted 09 September 2011 - 05:32 AM


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Posted 09 September 2011 - 09:07 AM

Contacting the Mods is a great idea for an answer. You could also ask in the Help Desk which is also private and only the mods will see it.

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Posted 09 September 2011 - 09:24 AM

Hi lilyvanilla,

I really hope that you can reach out for support in real-life right now if this is something that you're struggling with. You deserve to have support.

View Postlilyvanilla, on 09 September 2011 - 02:02 AM, said:

So exactly how much detail are we allowed to give in SU posts? As in, if we survive an attempt what should go in that post? Or we not allowed? And by 'details' I mean how it happened.


When talking about SU here, the focus should be on healing rather than on details. So while it is ok to talk about how you feel, and ok to state that you've survived an attempt, it wouldn't be appropriate to post graphic details or methods in this context. Those kinds of descriptions do not foster healing and can be detrimental to other members of the community, and are better handled in the context of a therapy session.

I hope that helps to answer your question - if you have any further questions, please do let us know.

Stay safe, and take gentle care,

Anath

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