Posted 30 January 2008 - 08:35 PM
Many of the things that have been said already...
It is my safe haven.
It is grounding because Pandys has become familiar over the years... whatever else has gone on or wherever I have been... Pandys has been there constant in the background.
24 hours a day.... so if I am struggling at night when people aren't around irl... there's a place to go.
I know I won't be judged.
People here *get it* in a way that many people irl don't seem to.
I don't feel like a freak for my thoughts and feelings and reactions. I have learned they are common in survivors and I'm not "crazy" for it.
There are people here all various stages in their healing journeys and so there is inspiration as well as relating. I see how people can and do heal and make good lives for themselves.
I get to "test run" expressing things in T, things I am scared or ashamed to say, I can post it here first as an interim step.... and learn that the world doesn't end if I tell. And there are people who understand, and people who have experience the same or similar.
There are all sorts of different people here. Different countries, faiths, experiences, interests, talents, ages, points of view, so I get a wider sense of possibilities and how it is okay to be an individual and everyones path and healing are unique.
I can be distressed and not have well-meaning people trying to quickly "cheer me up" but who are willing to sit with me in the rough times and offer gentle support. I don't have to pretend.
I am reassured that what I feel and go through is "normal" and bad phases don't mean I am going backwards.
Gives me an alternative to the harsh and unhealthy views around me irl. Helps to counter the negativity and nastiness around me.
I don't know how to put it.... but I have always found Pandys to be a place of optimism and healing, rather than a consolidation of pain (happens in some forums)
Though that sounds hypocritical given how negative and pessimistic I have been at times in the past!