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Top 10 Stupidest Comments

#46 Guest__*

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Posted 21 March 2003 - 09:37 AM

Okay, my husband doesn't know about my past...but he said something really stupid when there was a rape scene in a movie:
"If someone dresses like that, she just asked for it"

I thought I choked. I asked him if he was nuts, crazy insane and what the F**k he was thinking by saying such a horrible thing. He shrugged and said that I overreacted...it was just a joke...Well, I thought I exploded and walked away yelling..."Even if she was naked...no-one...no-one has the right to rape her!!!" That was when I knew I should not tell him ever.

Uh....he is really sweet...but he is male!!!
Charly

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Posted 16 April 2003 - 06:35 AM

(((((((EquaWaya)))))))

I can't believe that T... Sheesh, I wouldn't see him anymore if I were you. It doesn't matter if they used their p*n*s or not, it was still rape. That man was completely clueless.

(((((((Lynn))))))))

If she'd rather forget about it, then tell her to come over and fix a chinese dinner together, that would make everything better. ;)

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Posted 09 June 2003 - 01:08 AM

(((Lora)))
good, he doesnt deserve to have you in his presence.
people in such positions should know better.  but alas, no one is immune from fuckwit syndrome.

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Posted 11 July 2003 - 01:36 AM

Yep! Those were his exact words too! Sounds like a wonderful guy, doesn't he????????????  Just thinking about him saying that makes me want to vomit!


#50 Guest__*

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Posted 30 June 2002 - 09:56 PM

Why don't we just wear towels over our face so no one will know we are female.


Nat

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Posted 02 July 2002 - 12:24 PM

Well said Em. How much time do you think it would take to educate these complete fuckwits????????

#52 Guest_lea_*

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Posted 03 July 2002 - 10:23 AM

Can I just say to everyone that I'm glad you like the knitting-incident. I find it rather quaint myself. And for the record, I never did take up the art of fashioning bulky ill-fitting jumpers. Mr Moron is happily sitting in the middle of a scene, in the middle of a chapter somewhere on my computer....I guess I feel more comfortable with a pen in my hand, than an oversized plastic needle...

Love Lea.

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Posted 22 December 2002 - 05:07 PM

***Mistake Alert***

I just got off the phone with my sister who I confided in for the first time today. Her response ~ "well, Lisa, we all make mistakes in our choices in men ~ obviously you made a poor one.  You should have seen that one coming a mile away". WTF!

Lisa

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Posted 03 February 2003 - 12:09 PM

amy- ouch.  That had to hurt comming from your Mom and your husband.  I hope that you have other supportive people around you.

#55 User is offline   Elle 

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Posted 24 February 2003 - 02:19 PM

This thread has me aghast, alternating between nervous giggles (thanks Art) and jaw-on-the-floor incredulousness. People are so #### stupid. I'm sorry you all have heard those un-freaking-believably asinine comments.

Given that I've willingly disclosed to so very few people, I don't have such whoppers to share. However I have a couple, plus this post will lead to the all-important RED DOT! So here goes...

From a former therapist, after I said that in the months after being raped I was afraid of running into the perp: "You were afraid? Why?" (This was not in an explore your feelings kind of way but out of genuine confusion that I might still be afraid of that man. Ohhkay! Time for a new T!)

From a boyfriend: "You just use that rape stuff to avoid sex with me." (Yes darling, the world revolves around your sex drive. I just make this stuff up as an excuse.)

From another boyfriend: "Are you sure you didn't just regret it in the morning? I don't know any guys who are, you know, rapists." (Well, idiot, I didn't know he was a rapist when I first met him either.)

Another friend once referred to the rape as "when you were with [so and so]." As if we were dating or something! Oy.

Oh, Anna, I got a karma comment once too, and that one was that not only did I deserve what happened then, I still deserved more, and surely would suffer it again. I still can't believe the cruelty of that one.

L

(Edited by Elle at 3:28 pm on Feb. 24, 2003)

#56 Guest__*

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Posted 19 April 2003 - 09:06 PM

((((((((((Thelastunicorn))))))))))) and to ((((((Everyone here)))))))))) I am so sorry people can be so mean.  

Me: my boyfriend raped me.

My now ex-friend:  A boyfriend CAN'T rape you.

Oh, good I thought I had been raped when I begged him not to have sex with me and cried as he did it.  People are so unbelievable.  I can't believe people don't know a boyfrind or husband can rape you.

((((((Dani))))) I have had that excuse too.  Opps!! it went in the wrong hole.  That hurt soooo much.  I will never forget the pain.

Take care everyone.

Casper

(Edited by casper at 9:27 pm on April 20, 2003)

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Posted 01 July 2002 - 02:45 AM

The stupidest comment I can remember was from a psychologist I saw when I first started to remember the abuse... I tried really hard to explain to her how depressed and out of control I was... Her response to me was:

"I don't understand why you think you're so depressed and suicidal - Depressed people don't wear make-up so I don't believe you can be all THAT depressed"... "Why not go and buy some pretty paper-clips to make yourself feel better"...

WTF????  :shocked: :shocked:

The really stupid thing is I kept on seeing her until I really did "lose it" and I landed myself in a psych hospital for almost two months where I learned that make-up can be a mask for a lot of things, not instant "happiness...

Great post... :)

Mouseisa

(Edited by mouseisa at 5:32 pm on July 2, 2002)

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Posted 02 July 2002 - 12:07 PM

Ah, marriage, knitting, and orthodoxy..the solutions to all our problems. In fuckwit-land, perhaps.

Westermaid - welcome to the board!

:)

Emma

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Posted 03 July 2002 - 04:34 PM

One of the times I was talking to my counselor at school (after he knew what happened), he pointed out that it could happen anywhere, that I "could get dragged into a bathroom here at school and r*ped there".. EEEK! Needless to say, I started steering clear of bathrooms, esp. after I found a creep in one.. *sighs*

And there's the time I explained to a friend that I was uncomfortable with how touchy-feely my orchestra teacher was and he tells me I'm making too big a deal out of it..

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Posted 19 July 2002 - 07:07 AM

Grey,
I understand where your coming from.  It's like if you do something drastic in front of someone (like say, escape from a locked metal box while blindfolded with your hands tied behind your back or something equally Houdini-like), and the person just shrugs and walks away.  An ex-boyfriend did that once, and he was a little self-centered, but not everyone is.  The person you told might just not have known how to deal with it.  
But explainations aside, it still makes one feel a little unnoticed....
Hugs to you, if it's OK...:)

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