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Posted 15 October 2001 - 12:20 PM
most effective thing for me is taking a shower, but you've already mentioned this.
other things that work for me are the taking-care-of-myself things. renting a video, putting a mask on, making coco.
and running of course, just going outsite makes a whole lot of difference. i made the intention to run everyday.
that's it basically
Posted 15 October 2001 - 06:20 PM
Posted 17 October 2001 - 10:10 PM
loving hugs
Els
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(Edited by liadan at 7:04 pm on Aug. 5, 2002)
Posted 11 March 2003 - 02:32 PM
luv,
Yemaya
Posted 15 October 2001 - 09:58 AM
All of us are experienced experts on how to cope even if we feel like everything is falling apart.
We've all been there : not coping but still going to work, feeling terrible but still going to that party, cried our eyes out to be at the supermarket half an hour later.
We all have our mechanisms. We all thank a lot to them.
But then we also know the days where those mechanisms we've come to trust seem to fail us... and we start grabbing around, hoping to find a new one that will work.
Soooo....
Why don't we all put our experience together... So that we can try another coping tric when our own seem to fail.
I'll start with mine.
I really hope you will all share. I would love to try some out.
Ok, when I feel terrible but I know I have to go and do something, I take a shower, a very hot one, and sing. Sounds simple, isn't always that easy though. Sometimes I just can't find a song to sing. Sometimes I have to force myself to keep singing after the first line, but it helps. The combination of the hot water running, hearing and feeling myself sing... it almost always does the tric.
:)
Hope to hear from all of you.
love
Els
Posted 15 October 2001 - 02:35 PM
Okay....coping strategies.
Sometimes a nap will stave off a mild impending depression. I have hot baths and listen to music. For fear and panic, it's good to hug somebody, it takes away that sense of not being "real".
Sometimes taking steps to help myself can make me feel immediately better, for example just the fact that I've made arrangements to talk to someone about the problem can increase feelings of strength.
Reminding myself again and again that the messages fear and depression give are not reflective of truth but are symptoms of trauma can help too.
Self nurture is important at these times too.....even if I feel like shit, I don't have to treat myself like it.
God! I think a sense of humour must be one of the best things in my repertoire...I don't fear what I can laugh at.
I read jokes; ridicule perpetrators, remember hilarious quips I have heard..
Remembering beauty is a powerful tool too; light in the dark...Ilook at my babie's smiles...the hue of a bright yellow daisy...the sweet, sweet strains of Mendelssohn's Violin Concerto in E minor... going to my "Pandygirls" file to have a look at the gallery of pictures of wonderful women I have amassed there...no matter how ugly some things are, there is still bright, brilliant beauty in the world.
Sounds ridiculous, but buying something pink can be an immediate comfort to me...a pink headscarf, pink tee-shirt, bracelet with pink stones, any shade will do.
Remebering power...thinking about conquering goddesses...and that includes opening my Pandygirls file again. I also have several amazing pics of mythological goddesses, and looking at these strengthens me. I can also recall the times in my life where I have shown guts in the face of fear.
Focusing away from me a bit...I have friends that I cannot go too deeply with, but sometimes a cup of coffee and mild chit-chat takes me out of myself for awhile and that can be a relief...
Posting here, even if it's just asking for a hug.
Love to all
Rachel xxxxxx
Posted 17 October 2001 - 12:29 PM
and sometimes i will put on my sound of wolves cd and light a bunch of candles and lay down and space out into that.. i have to lay down to be comfortable cause of my back problems.
it was actually hard for me to think of anything..
but if i have to go somewhere which i usually dont go anywhere if i dont want too, except for last saturday my cousin wanted me to go out with her and i was depressed and didn't really want too, but i decided i would and before she came i listend to tori amos and i dressed comfortably which comfort to me is not tight jeans hate that.
but still when i went out i wished i hadn't and i learned something from that.
from now on when i am feeling low and depressed i am not going anywhere cause even if i am having an alright time at first it always changes.
so usually i dont go anywhere..
(((((((((HUGS)))))))))
Posted 18 October 2001 - 01:28 PM
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