I mean if it does bother you then you should let them know, but one thing iv learned personally is that , th English language as diverse and ever expanding due to the mass dialects has incorporated certain words , or phrases that are on the top , very insensitive. For example before I was attacked I lost my mum to cancer, now where I'm from (Liverpool u.k) when joking round people (myself included) will more than likely say things like "your mum" instead of "shut up" now , what was worse for me was people saying it to me after my mum , then realising and falling all over themselves trying to apologise , that is worse , it's unfair on the person , who has made no intentional attack against me , just the English wer horrible bastards and sometimes you just have I remember that ha, now carrying on with the rape issue , due to my mother I was very aware of throw to accept and deal , now my friends at the time weren't , adults even though I. Age we where, I myself still occasionally , for example .... I'm loosing badly on call of duty ( forgive the analogy trying to keep this as simple as) it will slip if my brother asks how you doin I have replied " getting raped like.." Now I will wince when I realise I say it and now putting it down here I feel like I'm saying insensitive things, I'm really not. , not intentionaly , I'm defending fraudulent slips ,now myself and my friends and people I know would never in a million years laugh or poke fun at a survivor , my friends where just unbelievably kind when I was attacked and I felt secure and there where always there , now here my point , so there for me that on occasion where the word "rape" was used in jest and in no way connected to the actually meaning of the word in my company , my friends would go on the defensive , they would be like " do you know what happened to Joel" this reallllly annoyed me , as you know we feel like victims enough, let alone making someone else feel like scum , for something they didn't mean , also draws attention to me and make it look like I was ... One of them . If yu know what I mean. So I would speak up and say listen , you havnt laced at me being raped, you havnt defended rapists and you havnt raped anybody, so please for gods sake say the word rape again so I can feel fucking relaxed. I do hope this hasn't offended anyone , I'm just trying to put my point down , I have massive respect and love for all of us here I truly do . I think it's down to us as the survivors though , to lead understanding and unselfish as possible , public awareness of what is really a massive part of our souls. We must forgive people ignorance , and to change this we mustn't attack , we must forgive ( saying all this if the person is laughing At an attack or is defending rapist or whatever these people are evil and need to be left alone)
Source: Friends joking about rape?