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One of the most awesome things that anyone ever said to me was the day after I pressed charges on my father and I was sitting on the floor next to my bed and I called him back and the first thing he asked is if Iwas ok. At the time I didn't know but I was thankful he was the first person to acknowledge how hard that pressing charges was. He will always have a special place in my heart.
And then last semester I said something about being a single mom and this girl in my class was like are you serious you go to school and are a single mom of twins you are my hero !!! I blew if off, I am not one that is good with compliments and I hurried away I was shocked that she would say something like that to me.
Sherri
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Kind Words What people have said that helps us heal
#32
Posted 07 September 2008 - 09:16 PM
I'm not concerned about the blah-blah university's reputation. I don't care how nice he is. You're the only person I'm concerned about here. You matter. Just YOU. You're the victim, honey. You matter. You just do.
#34
Posted 13 October 2008 - 09:32 PM
"You are beautiful
You are strong
You are kind
You are smart
You are sweet.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do...
Life is way to short to be unhappy." ----------My friend "Kitten" :)/>
You are strong
You are kind
You are smart
You are sweet.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do...
Life is way to short to be unhappy." ----------My friend "Kitten" :)/>
#35
Posted 24 October 2008 - 03:17 PM
"I'll come down there now, Ill take a flight and Ill come bring you back home. I dont care what it will cost me, or how Ill make my way there. I dont want you to go through this on your own, just give me the address and I'll be there."
"It's not your fault. No matter how you twist and turn it, it will never be your fault."
"I dont/cant understand what it must feel like for you, but I do understand your reasons for reacting like you do and feel like you do and you know what, you have all the rights in the world to feel like you do. As a matter of fact, let it all out when and if you need to - we will walk out into the forest together and you can scream as loud as you want."
"What you told me, I had no idea. It hit me so hard. I've spent hours, days afterwards reading information pages on internet to try to understand and I just want you to know, I'm here for you, always. Anytime of the day or night, just call, come over - Ill look after you. You can even have my flat to yourself if thats what you need, anything. You name it."
"You know, you dont have to say anything if you dont want to. Ill sit silent with you till you feel strong enough to let it all out."
"Think about it, in all your life you met thousands of people, hundred thousands and you have always had a smile that makes people think "oh life is so damn good" and of all that people...one idiot...one..and for one on a million you decide to change yourself, to close yourself in a bunker. The chances that you will meet other idiots like that are almost zero, luckily - and you risk ruining your life and live in forever pain, for what happened. Dont you ever forget that you were, you are and you will always be one of the most rare pearls in this world."
"I'll quit my phd, Ill find a job closer to you, I dont care, I just want to be where you are and make sure that you never feel scared or lonely again."
"It's not your fault. No matter how you twist and turn it, it will never be your fault."
"I dont/cant understand what it must feel like for you, but I do understand your reasons for reacting like you do and feel like you do and you know what, you have all the rights in the world to feel like you do. As a matter of fact, let it all out when and if you need to - we will walk out into the forest together and you can scream as loud as you want."
"What you told me, I had no idea. It hit me so hard. I've spent hours, days afterwards reading information pages on internet to try to understand and I just want you to know, I'm here for you, always. Anytime of the day or night, just call, come over - Ill look after you. You can even have my flat to yourself if thats what you need, anything. You name it."
"You know, you dont have to say anything if you dont want to. Ill sit silent with you till you feel strong enough to let it all out."
"Think about it, in all your life you met thousands of people, hundred thousands and you have always had a smile that makes people think "oh life is so damn good" and of all that people...one idiot...one..and for one on a million you decide to change yourself, to close yourself in a bunker. The chances that you will meet other idiots like that are almost zero, luckily - and you risk ruining your life and live in forever pain, for what happened. Dont you ever forget that you were, you are and you will always be one of the most rare pearls in this world."
"I'll quit my phd, Ill find a job closer to you, I dont care, I just want to be where you are and make sure that you never feel scared or lonely again."
#36
Posted 09 November 2008 - 05:06 PM
"being patient and understanding is the easy part. You've got the hard part and I just want to do whatever I can to make it all easier for you." said by my boyfriend when I thanked him for being so patient and understanding.
#37
Posted 13 November 2008 - 09:48 AM
I called a rape crisis hotline and after beating myself up for everything they person said "If you were your best friend, what would you think of yourself and your actions?" It really made me look at everything in a different and positive way.
#38
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Posted 13 November 2008 - 11:11 AM
"You must learn to love yourself first, then everything else will fall into place." - My 2nd cousin M.
This has really struck me, and may have even changed my life and my healing journey. She is totally right. Once you love yourself, the rest of your life will fall into place. But you must LEARN to love who you are, or you will perpetually be unhappy. She has said so many healing/meaningful/kind things to me throughout the years, this was just one that changed my outlook on life.
This has really struck me, and may have even changed my life and my healing journey. She is totally right. Once you love yourself, the rest of your life will fall into place. But you must LEARN to love who you are, or you will perpetually be unhappy. She has said so many healing/meaningful/kind things to me throughout the years, this was just one that changed my outlook on life.
#39
Posted 04 December 2008 - 08:05 PM
"Thriving and surviving is a life long goal. You take two steps forward and one step back. When we take a step back or slide back we need to stop, take a breath, remember all the work we have done and then attack life with your passion, from that strong amazing place in you, all over again." My best friend's mother, who if I can't get a hold of my best friend, is amazing to speak to.
That really hit home for me, it really meant a lot.
That really hit home for me, it really meant a lot.
#40
Posted 04 December 2008 - 08:09 PM
"I'm so proud of you and this amazing journey you have been on." My best friend, my boyfriend, and my best friends mother.
#41
Posted 16 February 2009 - 04:21 PM
One of my very best friends was concerned after I went into a depression right after I reported my abuse a year ago. She was frustrated because I wasn't talking to her and she had no idea why I was so sad. I couldn't bring myself to actually tell her I was molested in person, so I wrote her a note. This is how she replied:
"For Ashton,
When I read the note you gave me today, I almost started to cry. I thught my heart had sank inside of me. It was a change of breathing. Concentration was lost and I was speechless. I was so pissed off, not at you; but you know...
You are so strong.
That's how I think of you, and I want you to know that a note won't change that, but only prove that I'm right about you. That you can make it through everything and anything, because that's who you are; that's what you do. I don't know what to say, even though this message is really long. :)/> I don't know what the 'right' words are or, even if there are any. If there are, I'm not even sure I would say them the way I meant them. I DO know that everything is going to be okay; I know because of how much faith I have in you, and I know because I can feel it. I believe that if God brings you to something, he brings you through it. I've never had a challenge in my life. And if I did, they would look like pebbles compared to yours. To come out from a storm standing, means something. It shows something about you, and your heart. If I could take back anything in the world, I'd leave the option to you. I love you very much, and would do anything in my power not to see you down.
And if these words were the 'right' ones, I hope they were somehow reached. If they wern't, well....I'm working on it. :)/>
With all my love,
C."
I'm so fortunate to have such amazing friends.
"For Ashton,
When I read the note you gave me today, I almost started to cry. I thught my heart had sank inside of me. It was a change of breathing. Concentration was lost and I was speechless. I was so pissed off, not at you; but you know...
You are so strong.
That's how I think of you, and I want you to know that a note won't change that, but only prove that I'm right about you. That you can make it through everything and anything, because that's who you are; that's what you do. I don't know what to say, even though this message is really long. :)/> I don't know what the 'right' words are or, even if there are any. If there are, I'm not even sure I would say them the way I meant them. I DO know that everything is going to be okay; I know because of how much faith I have in you, and I know because I can feel it. I believe that if God brings you to something, he brings you through it. I've never had a challenge in my life. And if I did, they would look like pebbles compared to yours. To come out from a storm standing, means something. It shows something about you, and your heart. If I could take back anything in the world, I'd leave the option to you. I love you very much, and would do anything in my power not to see you down.
And if these words were the 'right' ones, I hope they were somehow reached. If they wern't, well....I'm working on it. :)/>
With all my love,
C."
I'm so fortunate to have such amazing friends.
#42
Posted 12 March 2009 - 05:31 AM
What you say about your self-esteem and all this... Hazel, it's not you. It's nothing you did.
I just feel some sadness for you.
I just wish I could whack someone for you.
You are a very strong person. You DO have the stength to get through this.
You must never feel guilty or sorry about telling people. If they are friends then they will not think badly of you. You were not to blame.
Please remember you are not weak. I think you must be one of the strongest people I know to have achieved what you have done so far.
You have taken a big step forward and although there is a long way to go, you are going to get there.
... All from the same friend - top three in person and the others in emails. She's a star. I'm very lucky to have her.
I just feel some sadness for you.
I just wish I could whack someone for you.
You are a very strong person. You DO have the stength to get through this.
You must never feel guilty or sorry about telling people. If they are friends then they will not think badly of you. You were not to blame.
Please remember you are not weak. I think you must be one of the strongest people I know to have achieved what you have done so far.
You have taken a big step forward and although there is a long way to go, you are going to get there.
... All from the same friend - top three in person and the others in emails. She's a star. I'm very lucky to have her.
This post has been edited by Hazel.: 12 March 2009 - 05:32 AM
#43
Posted 15 March 2009 - 04:58 AM
i am so glad that we've got people in our lives that are good to us...we deserve them.
#44
Posted 18 April 2009 - 09:56 PM
To repost what I posted in the "Kind Words" thread in the Healing Together subform:
Thursday my friend apologized for "not being herself" and I responded "You don't have to apologize for anything, after what you went though that is completely understandable".
Thursday my friend apologized for "not being herself" and I responded "You don't have to apologize for anything, after what you went though that is completely understandable".
