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When asked: Why didn't you fight harder what do you say. *T*
Posted 13 November 2010 - 11:57 PM
I think everyone here is so brave. Don't let these people get you down, because in the end the question is just silly...
Posted 13 January 2011 - 03:52 PM
Posted 15 January 2011 - 11:25 PM
I hear people talking about how they would handle a life-or-death confrontation and it just makes me laugh a little to myself.
I know first hand that the one who attacks you isn't necessarily the creepy guy lurking in the dark alley.
For me, he was a man in a suit interviewing me for a job. I managed to get away from him in time. Years later, I was raped by a clean-cut, good-looking man in an expensive car who offered me a ride home in a bad neighborhood.
I lived in a bad, bad neighborhood, but it wasn't some stereotypical, shady character who attacked me. It was a man who knew I wouldn't suspect him. He played a part. He betrayed me, and he did it quickly, when I least expected it.
You don't walk around your office with brass knuckles. You aren't vigilant in a crowded, yuppie-filled bar in a nice neighborhood. It's ridiculous that these other people (and I, at one time) believe that they can be prepared for something like this. God, I wish that we could have all been victorious over our attackers and outsmarted them.
So what do we do? What CAN we do? Keep living, keep coping, carrying on, and hoping that the nice people that we meet really are what they seem to be.
I have looked evil in the face - and it looks like everyone else.
Posted 28 September 2011 - 10:32 PM
I agree with this so much. I haven't really been asked this yet, fortunately, but I have had a "friend" who told me she wouldn't have stayed if she were in the same situation and basically acting like I'm stupid. Meanwhile, I'm thinking "Shut up, you don't know until you're IN the situation."
Posted 30 September 2011 - 05:52 PM
Posted 02 October 2011 - 06:40 AM
The second time was in retaliation for reporting the first. I froze and zoned out or did what I had to do to get through it. The sum of my injuries amounted to a few small bruises on my bicep.
Why is it that during crimes like robbery people are advised to give in to any demand and not fight back but the moment the crime is sex based the opposite applies?
Posted 22 November 2011 - 08:12 AM
I know why I didn't fight back. I wish people could understand that until they are thrown into a certain situation, they will never be ready.
Posted 30 November 2011 - 06:24 PM
Why didn't I fight harder?
why didn't I just throw 1 more punch?
Why didn't I use my martial arts skills on them?
Why did I just give in and let them do what they wanted most of the time?
The answers that I have found and am still struggling with are.
I fought back as hard as I could.
There were minimum 5 of them, all bigger and stronger.
They often had weapons of some sort.
When I fought back, I stopped when I was overpowered and physically restrained or laying on the ground loosing consciousness.
When I just did what they told me to it was usually because I had been bashed daily for a week for refusing to do it and I was exhausted and sore.
I didn't use my martial arts because I did once. I threw 1 of them and hurt him badly. from then on they only used weapons and wouldn't get close enough until they had softened me up a bit.