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22 April 2012

Posted by Dollygirl

She's ruined everything :'( why did she tell my parents :'( I was going to, when I felt comfortable and safe doing so :'(
Not only has she hurt me, she's hurt them. My mum looks exhausted, my sister is avoiding me, and my dad looks at me like he's helpless, like he can't do anything. I was happier before, with nobody knowing. Keeping it in worked for me. I'd rather feel 100x more pain, than see the same pain in my mums eyes.
I've gotten through a lot, but I think this is more than I can take.

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I'm so sorry.

KOD, 22 April 2012 - 06:42 AM

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I'm a mom who has that pain in her eyes, and I have been a daughter who saw it before too. I'm so sorry you were hurt. Please know that while finding out someone hurt your little girl IS crushing, devastating, excruciating, please don't turn away from her...she can help you heal, and you can help her too. As much as it would have been better when YOU were ready, you can't unring the bell. You don't need to talk. Just go hold her hand for a few minutes. It will take away a millimeter of the pain you see....and feel. One millimeter at a time. And please know that what happened, happened TO you. It ISN'T you...

**hugs**

Guest, 22 April 2012 - 01:35 PM

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I'm so sorry but be thankful that they care enough to care for you. Just thinking about the lack of care my mother showed when I told her and the lack of care my dad would show if I told him makes me want to cry. They both have the mindset that it was my fault. But like hazydaizee said just go up to your mom and just hold her. If you can hug her. Hug her as tight as you can and just stay there. I'm sorry though that they where told before you where ready to share.

Aurora325, 22 April 2012 - 09:08 PM