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5 worst betrayals how did you work through them?
Posted 06 February 2013 - 09:35 PM
2. my cousin telling me not to go to the cops or tell the police.
3. my mother drinking while i had ptsd.
4. my little sister dating the guy's cousin.
5. my dad telling me that i deserved to be hit by my mom.
Posted 18 February 2013 - 08:08 PM
My girlfriend's brother, who for some reason thinks that all the times she's been r***** and abused are nothing short of hilarious, and continually makes jokes about her and calls her a slag. He also thinks it's a sport to antagonise her mental illnesses, such as disassociative personality disorder which arose as a result of the trauma she suffered. Her mum, who goes along with this and makes her do all the housework and takes her money, robbing her of any independence and time to herself, plus denies her any opportunity to heal with phrases like 'stop crying' or 'man up' even when she has full-on breakdowns. Her entire family - save her nan - are an ugly bag of snakes that need to be laid out straight.
Posted 20 April 2013 - 02:00 PM
2 the man that hurt me so much i just wished for death to come allso he was related to my boyfriend how also rape me
3 my mum she cryed but did not believe me cos i was to ashamed to say there was blood how was i to know that and cos her son my brother rape me to he was the golden one he could not do eny thing wrong so it was my fault and for telling the only man i ever trused that i was making it up
4 my dad for not giving a shit about it for not even telling me ill be ok and for letting me trust him just to leave me and my brother kyle and my sister dan just befoe christmas the shit
5 the police how lied to me they told me that he wold go to prison and did not
Posted 20 April 2013 - 03:18 PM
2 my father for not listening (though that is down to my mothers mindgames)
3 my former best friend, colleage and minister, for screwing around and pushing my buttons during the counselling and then breaching a position of trust and manipulating and broadcasting information from the councelling deliberatly so he could f*** me up and cover his and the f***-ups of his own staff,
what i want to do is lie in wait and put a crossbow-bolt through his f***** skull (or torture the guy very,very slowly but not enuf to kill him ) obviously i have along way to go until im over it
4 my "friends" for stabbing me in the back
5 my old youth leaders for standing by and allowing me to be assaulted and r**** and just spouting evangelical religious crap
BUT THE BEST REVENGE I CAN HAVE IS TO HAVE A HAPPY LIFE
This post has been edited by Abishai: 20 April 2013 - 03:41 PM
Posted 24 April 2013 - 08:06 PM
I attempted suicide and when I woke up from a coma the nurse told me how spoiled and selfish I was and how I was just doing it for attention. Then when I told a psychiatrist I had been raped he told me not to discuss it while I was in hospital. He completely ignored the fact and diagnosed me as manic depressive and put me on tons of pills.
I think I have pretty much done some good healing about the actual events, but it is the betrayal by all the bystanders that keeps me in a state of distrust of the world.
Posted 30 May 2013 - 11:24 PM
First one when I was nine, and a family friend babysat me for the weekend. After three days of "tickle parties" and "cuddle sessions" where he'd stick his hand down my pants and up my shirt I felt completely filthy and at the time I didn't know why. So after my mom and her husband (dad's dead) got home, it took a while to say what happened. And while my mom was up in arms about it, my step dad said "are you sure you're not lying? Justin would never do something like that, he's been my best friend for years. Are you sure you aren't lying?"
When I was sixteen my step dad molested me also, so that betrayal makes more sense now.
The second one is going on right now. My step dad is no longer living in my house because I told my mom and she kicked him out, but after that she never spoke about it again. Then she started talking about how nasty I am, how I'm a whore, how ungrateful and manipulative and unpleasant I am. But I still was in pain, so I tried to talk to her about the triggers I was having. she responded with "well you need to figure all that out. None of us have time for that sort of turmoil, you need to sort it out."
Okay, mindf**k. The first one was easy to handle, mainly because it was explained later. But this one? The woman who's been in my corner my whole life is now scorning me, making me feel like I don't deserve to feel the pain that I do (that's the most mind-f**king part, I don't believe I deserve to be here anymore), and on top of it all, inviting him over every few days to mow the lawn, fix the sink, go over bill payments and generally just hang out. And I can't help but stew in my own hopelessness, there's no way to get over it when you live under her roof and your abuser comes over every weekend to visit. Gah.
Posted 10 June 2013 - 12:06 PM
Posted 10 June 2013 - 09:54 PM
2. He knew he had a problem, but just kept doing the same s**t over and over again.
3. My mom telling me that I need to stop talking about my SA to my boyfriend because I'll "push him away"