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Anybody else have weird triggers? Want to list them? (yes, *trigger warn*)
Posted 07 June 2004 - 09:10 AM
kissing, especially an unexpected one, and french kissing
old men with glasses
being held down
all sports, but especially basketball and football
and sports (I hate sports)
guys with baseball caps,
or guys who act cocky, with macho-syndrome
looking men in the eyes
getting hit on or complimented on my body
when I catch someone looking at my breasts or
eyes roaming my body
loud or aggressive talking or shouting
church, or people trying to convert me
sex, especially oral and male penetration
any guy talking about women's issues or rape,
joking about rape or sex
and the fact that so many women go through this
unfortunately, "Mary" by Tori (I love that song, but it hurts to listen to it. I listened to it a lot the weekend of my last rape. Also, it's about nature and I was in a very industrialized part of Florida and the family I was working for were Native American and grew up on an reservation. I've always been sensitive to the cause, but it still sets me off. I feel sick if I've left the cd running without programming it out.)
plastic beads, like Mardis Gras
Posted 07 June 2004 - 06:21 PM
Here are mine:
Ottawa (I once heard a news report about Ottawa and snapped "I hope that hellhole burns to the ground!" Later I realized one of my rapists was from Ottawa)
the word slut
my hair being pulled
Summer--very depressed throughout
Virginia aka michelle'ssong
Posted 07 June 2004 - 06:47 PM
the smell of beer
beards or any other facial hair
hands that don't look "safe"
the smell of pot
lights going off unexpectedly
I thought of a few more:
my face being wet
making me repeat something back to someone
men with children
Posted 07 June 2004 - 08:26 PM
Mine are as follows:
* The word "r*pe", or pretty much anything pertaining directly to that
* Being pinned down, not being able to move my arms or legs
* Not being able to protect my face (i.e. with my hands)
* movement in the corner of my eye, like someone is behind me
* strangers touching me
* people I know touching me first - I have to reach out to them for a hug or something
* the movie "American Psycho"
* bright pink roses
* turquoise thongs
* Incubus (the band)
* Floater (the band)
* anyone talking about prom
* people coming up to me from behind
* cold concrete floors
* soccer fields (i know... it happened there once though)
* "1999" by Prince
That's a whole lot more than I thought! ???
Posted 07 June 2004 - 08:48 PM
Being held down
Touching all over my body. This is a big no no.
Anyone who comes up behind me.
Anyone who looks at me funny. Like eyes staring at me and watching me. This scares me so much because i don't know what they might have up their sleeves.
Any muscular and strong guys.
Any sex scenes on t.v.
Posted 07 June 2004 - 11:00 PM
facial hair on men - but not any kind- the kind I always associated with philosophers or theologians (sorry I can't be clearer);
being called beautiful;
feeling as though I'm not being heard will send me over the edge.
This post has been edited by jfinnova: 07 May 2007 - 08:55 PM
Posted 08 June 2004 - 03:47 PM
being held down
people touching me
people too close to me-especially men
native american men
my niece sometimes...sad :down:/>
the *r* word
oral sex (men)
sex w/out words
sometimes just sex
having an arm thrown over me while i'm sleeping
sex w/ clothes still on
men looking at me when i'm alone
having my arms pinned down
Those are some of my major triggers. Great thread!
Posted 08 June 2004 - 04:38 PM
*Sheepskin rugs (makes my skin crawl thinking of them)
*People with his name (first or last have to spit it out to say it.)
*A certain English football team
*Salem (The name of his house) :angry:/>
*People coming up behind me and making me jump
*Men in doorways (no escape)
*Being slapped on the arse
*summertime and young girls sitting exams (especially GCSE)
*Films with rape scenes or torture
*Courtroom dramas (real BAD trigger)
Think thats it, God my hearts pounding!!!!
How COULD I forget oral sex? Worst one of all. Just makes me want to gag
Posted 08 June 2004 - 06:27 PM
STAR WARS...everything related to it... especially toys
Spiders Live and Dead
Seeing male nudity specially *P*
Piddle on the toliet Heaven help the male friend of mine who uses my bathroom and leaves dribble behind
they get banned from using my bathroom.
Hearing a guy pee.
Hearing any male make a sexual noise. even in only in jest. I stopped hanging out with a gay friend of mine because he'd flame out and.... tears. eventually tho he pissed me off and I told him sorry I'm just not "your fag hag" find another dyke.
having my back touched even by me sometimes
Right Guard & Old Spice... plus anything that smells like it
Me with my natural Hair color esp. when it's short I look in the mirror and see my brother stareing back at me.
Hearing his name
PPL who know better but ask me how he is... hello the only tabs I keep on him are so I can avoid him
Old men and Mormon Men
Men hitting on me
The sound a smoker makes when they are quitting that wet racking cough
Being hugged by my dad... sometimes this gets me
Seeing family members of opposite sex being affectionate towards each other
ok gunna go cry now better stop
Posted 08 June 2004 - 07:43 PM
someone saying something, but having a hidden intention, basically any form of double speak. i feel it and feel confused and it triggers this intense terror for me.
assembly of god churches
silence as response after i say something
anything about spanking
waiting for a ride (this is huge!)
creepy people trying to talk to me when i walk by
being touched or grabbed
comments about my body and comparisons
i havent yet experienced a lot of things since the r*, but the thought of them makes me feel really nauseated, so i dont want to try.
Posted 09 June 2004 - 12:18 AM
**obviously, any reference to r*pe, in*est, or m*lest*tion
**p*rn of any form, even just a reference to it or joke about it
**any references to male or female anatomy
**a completely dark room
**anyone touching me at all without me initiating the contact
**anyone having any physical contact with another person, even just on tv
**my little sister (she's at the age where the abuse happened for me) or anyone between 10 and 14
**tight-fitting clothes, particularly tight shorts or short-shorts
**references to people's weights and sizes
**any guy touching me in any way
**sleeping in any room that doesn't have a locked door
**sleeping in the same room as a guy
**close relationships with guys, even though they are all platonic, I can't handle the emotional intimacy
**television shows involving social workers
**the farm I lived on
**old, beat-up armoires (yes, obscure furniture)
**my uncle (whom my brother stole p*rn from, this still bothers me)
**adolescent boys in general
**the game chess
**fishing or digging for worms
**the thought of having a husband
**life, at least at the moment
**strange guys at work trying to strike up a conversation (I'm a waitress). I am always suspicious of their motives and really bothered by it.
Wow. Now I know why I never did this before. I hate to think that some very normal things and relationships are now incredibly tainted and avoided. :down:/>
Posted 09 June 2004 - 09:09 AM
*any mention AT ALL of the age '12'
*when someone says "my turn"..(yeah, even a simple board game is out of the question for me..it always gets said)
I used to be really triggered by wearing underwear,(WEIRDO :upside:/> ), but I have recently conquered that one :;)/>:
cool thread bloo, its a good way to examine ourselves.
Posted 09 June 2004 - 01:27 PM
anything on my neck
breath on my neck or ear
being in town on a saturday night
worrying how i'm going to get home
south park the movie [we watched it that night]
people trying to convince me that something i know happened didnt happen
the smell of brandy
little girls [they look so innocent and precious]
i'm sure there are others too that i cant remember right now
Posted 09 June 2004 - 10:40 PM
*r*pe scenes in movies or tv or books
*any songs by ICP
*the song Lady in Red
*being alone at night
*when my lights go out during a storm
*If males get too close to me or try to touch me
Alot of the ones you guys mentioned also trigger me as well.
Posted 10 June 2004 - 03:41 PM
*being in a bikini
*wearing short shorts(or anything "sexy")
*being around my 16-yr-old sister (same age as i was when all the abuse started)
*being held or cuddled in bed
*unshaven pubic area(on men)
My list could go on and on!!! Thanks ((bloogirl))for starting this!