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Coping with Anniversaries
Posted 24 January 2008 - 06:41 PM
v Go out with your friends
v Go shopping
v Go to lunch/dinner
v Go to the movies
v Have a day at the Spa
v Celebrate your survival/be happy to be alive
v Do something positive
v Buy yourself chocolates, flowers, a cake, something special
v But comforting things the day before for the next day: bath stuff, candles, books
v Plan distractions
v Throw a party
v Be alone, cry
v Get angry
v Figure out what YOU need
v Comfort yourself
v Ignore it
v Take the day off work/school
v Plan structure for the day
v If on a holiday, celebrate the holiday in a new way… set new traditions
v Remember, you are in control
v Plan a day trip or a vacation
v Post on Pandy's
v Chat on Pandy's
v Go to a concert
v Attend therapy on that day
v Spend the day with your significant other
v Get a babysitter for the kids
v Give yourself permission to feel what you need to feel
v Do something major like go skydiving or bungee jumping
v Play a tree or flower in remembrance
v Get a tattoo
v Have a "survivor party"
v If it's a hard day, call a hotline and tell them "it's my anni"
v Dye your hair