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Thread Labeling Question? Um... maybe *T*? That's my question....
Posted 02 February 2010 - 06:19 PM
I was avoiding anything labelled as such, but this morning I had a bad time after reading something not labeled as triggering (but then, I have one fairly obscure trigger). So, I tried a couple labeled posts... nothing. Beyond feeling bad for the person posting, and wanting to help, that is.
So now I'm confused. Before, I would have labeled anything that *I* found triggering. But if I have obscure triggers, then I have to assume other people do, too. I don't want to make people feel bad.
It seems like everyone here has a built-in "trigger alarm", and knows exactly when to label their posts as such. I think I missed that part. :huh:/>
So I'll just ask. When is it a good idea to warn people about your post?
Posted 02 February 2010 - 08:00 PM
There is no way you can know everyones triggers, and that you can avoid triggering everyone all the time; as you said everyone has different triggers. I've also requested for some posts to be labelled triggering; they included graphic details, and I wasn't ready to hear them, totally threw me off.
So if you're mentioning details, i'd say label it as triggering; just in case... and I'd rather read something labeled as *t* and not be triggered than something not labeled and be triggered.
this is just me, but i hope it helps
Posted 02 February 2010 - 09:16 PM
Posted 03 February 2010 - 04:36 AM
You seem like a lovely, caring, thoughtful person. You will do the right thing, try not to worry about it too much. We will trust you, and none of us blame each other if we get triggered occasionally...I think it's bound to happen here sometimes.
Take care of you.
Posted 03 February 2010 - 10:03 AM
You're certainly not alone with being unsure about whether to label a post as "triggering" or not as it is somewhat subjective, and like you said, what may trigger one person may not trigger another people. Obviously, we all have our own individual, sometimes obscure, triggers, and it isn't possible to be aware of triggers which may be unique and specific to a very small group of survivors. However, there are some general areas that do tend to be more triggering generally, such as posts which contain descriptions related to sex, sexual or physical violence, those with overt religious overtones, or those which discuss suicide or self injury.
If in doubt, its better to put a trigger warning than not. You can clarify what the trigger warning is in relation to so, for example, you could put **Trigger for talk of suicide** or **Trigger for description of violence**. Then people are given a chance as to whether to read on.
However, although we recommend putting a trigger warning on those posts which are more likely to be triggering, its important to remember that we each have a responsibility to take care of ourselves and our triggers. Sometimes its impossible to know what's likely to be a trigger for someone, and therefore if you have certain triggers its advisable to exercise caution when reading posts, especially if feeling particularly vulnerable.
Posted 31 March 2010 - 05:46 AM
Posted 31 March 2010 - 09:26 AM
It's not a stupid question! I don't know if I have a definitive answer for you. We usually ask people to put trigger warnings for things like self-injury, suicide, eating disorders, swearing, graphic details.
You don't have to star out any words unless you want to. We ask that people not post swears in post titles, but other than that, you can post whatever you want, as long as it doesn't violate the guidelines. Some people choose to star out words because they're not comfortable saying them, but it's all personal preference. There's no way you can ever know everyone's triggers, so we usually stick to the general ones, and remind everyone to take care of themselves as they read the board. Does that make sense? Let us know if you have any questions!