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Stalking Facts and Resources
Posted 22 August 2006 - 07:06 AM
I recently found letters from a stalker I dealt with last year.
After the second or third letter he left in my door (he found out where I lived two days after I said hello to him in a Wal-Mart!) I went to the police and they told me to tell him that I was not interested! This guy was an Army Ranger! :blink:/>
I thought that was the wrong response; thank you for confirming that with this thread.
Posted 30 November 2006 - 06:16 AM
I got my stalking order after a LOT of research, and had to demand the police issue it. When I finally reached a receptive officier, she admitted she didn't know how to issue one, had never done, and no one in her department had. So she had to find out how to do that before she could issue it.
So be proactive, learn about the laws and don't accept the "he's just having a little trouble letting go" bullsh**.
I still worry, I still made sure when I changed jobs that my new employer understood that my information was not to be given out. My phone is unlisted.
Posted 30 November 2006 - 06:24 AM
Posted 31 December 2006 - 10:23 AM
she was not physically violent but she was quite obsessed with him in a way that went far beyond anything rational and she blamed him for all of her obsession/pain. she also almost caused an accident by backing up in a panic as she drove by his house on one of her many drive-bys and found to her surprise that he was coming home and saw her.
Posted 31 December 2006 - 01:14 PM
This really got my attention. I was so leery about going into this post and reading it especially feeling like I have been feeling lately. The word stalking is even a trigger. But as I continued to read...well this validates so much for me. It is going on 4 years since the stalking began for me. Off and on...I don't know when it will start again and just when I think all is okay it all starts again and the police have all but given up. It doesn't feel like they are taking it seriously and neither does my family. Some have said I should feel flattered and it isn't that bad. It could be worse...those kind of statements. So I can't reach out to anyone. I feel like I am making a big deal out of it and all. And if it starts back up again are they going to help me?? This tells me that it is that serious. So serious...I mean how can it minimized...I was brutally *....but last year my dogs were shot. One of my dogs lost his leg. But still it isn't a big deal? Anyway...I have felt that I was just too sensitive, too paranoid, over reacting. I also thought it made my PTSD so much more worse but I couldn't get anyone to hear me. But this IST is exactly what I am go through...but I also know this is PTSD. Regardless though this helps me so much and the websites I am thankful for. I will have to come back little by little and read each one at a later time. But I just want to say thanks Louise.
Posted 15 January 2007 - 08:37 AM
Thank you so much for putting this helpful information on Stalking on this website. My ex-boyfriend stalked me last summer, and it was a nightmare.
The local Domestic Abuse Council in this area told me that I couldn't have him arrested due to lack of evidence. That put me into a Depression, where I was afraid to go outdoors. My boss and other women helped, but a some people did not believe me.
This is still a very emotional issue for me. I am getting upset as I write this. He was emotionally abusive to me in the relationship. I just wanted to be rid of him after we broke up, and then he started stalking me.
I feel guilty that I allowed the abuse to go on as long as it did.I wish that I had been ...
I don't know what I wish. I loved this guy, and he was an abusive alcoholic, and he continued to stalk me after we broke up- with other girls. This has affected my self-esteem. I really need to get some help, and this area is totally limited in it's services.
Thanks for posting this. This websitew has been really helpful for me.
This post has been edited by joanD: 15 January 2007 - 08:43 AM
Posted 16 January 2007 - 01:04 PM
My biological father has stalked me and my brothers twice in the past.. He's in jail now for a few months, but after that he'll eventually will stalk us again I think. Only question is, when.
Thanks for posting it.
Posted 17 February 2007 - 03:42 PM
Posted 18 February 2007 - 09:55 AM
This post has been edited by christinevght: 18 February 2007 - 09:55 AM
Posted 17 May 2007 - 09:21 PM
Posted 19 May 2007 - 02:50 PM
I can't believe that people consider stalking and sexual harrassment flattering! The same thing happened to me Sheri. The guy opened the window of his car as I walked by and told me he'd give money if I *****. It triggered me badly. My mind went blank. I had to get in a taxi to go back home. It was only a two-block walk but when I'm really depressed, I just don't... understand my surroundings. I get easily lost. I can't even read maps. :(/>
I'm sorry these things happend to all of you and hope all stalkers get caught.
This post has been edited by scamellia: 19 May 2007 - 02:51 PM