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Posted 24 June 2002 - 11:20 PM
Posted 25 June 2002 - 12:51 AM
Posted 25 June 2002 - 06:54 AM
courage can be getting up in the morning, getting dressed and doing what needs to be done...
courage can be looking beyond the stupid things people say and hanging on to what you know to be the Truth...
courage can be refusing to be dead inside and allowing yourself to feel the pain of our hurts and choosing to heal...
courage isn't always something people recognize from the outside, sometimes we don't recognize it ourselves.
Posted 25 June 2002 - 07:52 AM
I think courage is so many things. I also think that we have it within ourselves but we also thrive off of others courage.
In my opinion, just surviving our traumas (whether it was 1 minute, one hour, one month, one year, or 10 years long) take a tremendous amount of courage. This courage is inside us and we don't even know it.
finding support in a place like this takes courage, even if you don't post. Posting takes even more courage. I know many of you don't see it that way but I do.
I find that I feed off the courage of others. I read something here that someone has done or said and I just get so inspired.
Nat, this is a great question. From what I have seen of you, you have the courage inside you. You are here after all. :)
Shell (who probably made no sense but oh well)
Posted 25 June 2002 - 08:59 AM
the courage i see here amazes me and fills me with inspiration, makes me reach down deep for my own courage. and i always find it! it's there! :) and Nat, you have it too, but i will share mine with you whenever you need it.
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Posted 25 June 2002 - 10:41 AM
Posted 27 June 2002 - 10:33 PM
To me what is courage?
Courage is actually alloing yourself to love yourself.
Courage is attempting to love others even you know that deep down some dont feel the same for you.
Courage is being able to stand your ground, alone. Even if you have ppl saying that they stand with you, to keep in your head that you are standing and if they leave oh well, your alone and thats okay and fine.
Courage is knowing how you feel, reconizing it from a time before and being able to <b>KNOW</b> that you can get by.
Courage is reaching out, even if you are scared shitless, just doing it anyways.
Courage is what stands and sits still within all of us. Every single person in here has courage, some just dont know it. To get by, to get through a trauma, to relive it, to nightmare/flashback/attack over it and still breathe the next day is courage.
Any truama is soo #### difficult, but to be able to withstand the pain even if crying for wks, well wow. Everyone has courage, including you miss Natalie, <b>EVERYONE.</b>
Look inside you...
Posted 16 April 2003 - 09:07 PM
Posted 24 June 2002 - 11:13 PM
Where do you think courage comes from? Is it something inside us...or is it something we find elsewhere? Does it come from being confident or is it something that is non existent and can only be reached when one just doesn't care anymore?
Posted 25 June 2002 - 12:31 AM
Now where it comes from I don't really know. I think we all have some inside us but I reach outside myself for it too. I know that the ladies here have given me the courage to do things I couldn't have done with out help. I think I also absore it from my dogs...they are all so brave all have been abandoned and abused but still have it in them to trust, love and be happy again and to things for me. LOL Someday when I grow up I want to be like my dogs :)
Posted 25 June 2002 - 05:04 AM
Take gentle care,
Posted 25 June 2002 - 08:17 AM
Winter is courage, or fear, and resides in the kidney and bladder meridian...kidney fear is more yin, bladder is more yang- terror
Spring is liver and gall bladder, anger/rage and righteous anger/ assertiveness, boundaries
summer is passion joy or panic heart, Small intestine, Heart Protector and triple warmer
Solsitce/equinox- happens whenever the seasons change for 2 weeks, is compassion or lack of sympathy for self
Fall is reflection or grief. large intestine and lung
To nourish your destiny is to be able to experience the full range of emotional responses. When a human has been traumatized, they often get stuck on one gear, flooding is being stuck in grief. I don't know if any of you saw that guy Andrew, the lawyer from New York who defends children, when he was on the Oprah show - he was trying to tell her that she has not accesssed her righteous anger, she feels sympathy for her abuser.
The story of the wizard of Oz is a metaphor- did you lose your heart (passion summer) or your courage, or your brain? etc. The quote by Albert Camus- "In the midst of winter, I finally realized there was in me an invincible summer" is remembering your passion for what you love.
Winnie the Pooh also hs the characters- although there is some disagreement over who is who , but each charcter represents a part of yourself.
Tigger is passion joy vs. Eyore who is grief no matter what they can't getin touch with each other's feelings. There is a great movie where Tigger loses his bounce, they ar all mad at him becasue he is too enthusiastic. That is the story of many abused children. They are robbed of the rhythm they were born to manifest, and to nourish theri destiny they have to find it. Like, finding your voice and speaking your anger, etc.
In Donna Eden's book Energy Medicine she explains how to test yourself for the rhythms, and how to do exercises to balance your energy.
is a lovely website.
Personally , I believe that over the next 5 years we are going to be looking to the east - yoga etc to learn how to heal trauma.
light to you,
courage is your birthright
Posted 25 June 2002 - 08:47 AM
For me courage is connected to love and to fear. I think those two might be the main sources.
Connected to love because I think love is the source of courage, or one of them. It is the love we feel for life or a person or ourselves, that inspires us to be brave I think.
Connected to fear, because it is in moments of fear that we need courage. I'm too lazy (sorry for that)to go looking in all the quotes in looked up for Grrl Survivors, but one of them is something like: Courage is not the absence of fear, but acting in spite of it.
I think that is very true...
I'm sure this question will stay with me for a while.
Posted 25 June 2002 - 10:28 AM
I'm not sure I have anything to add to these definitions of courage, but I do know that you are one of the most courageous people I know. While I'm at it.. you're also beautiful, funny, wise, strong, compassionate and just plain amazing.
I love you,