Around Christmas time my daughter and her boyfriend thought it might be a good idea to get a companion for the monster puppy cuz he is eight now and needs to be excersized to remain happy and healthy. So I gave them the money they needed to purchase a beautiful female Pit Bull puppy. She is so sweet and loving I wish she were my dog and I am more a cat person. She is funny and a sneaky thief of things she should not chew on/eat.
My daughter and her boyfriend know how I feel about how rough the boyfriend plays with any of the animals and it has seemed to me he was looking for things to punish the newest addition over. Her name is Ellie. This is just my opinion and it did not stop him.
The boyfriend never puts anything back where he got them. He never can find anything cuz he doesn't remember where he left them. He does not take good care of anything. He is a slob. Just my opinion.
The morning of the fight I was up at 6am picking up the dishes that the boyfriend left on the floor and coffee table in the livingroom while the dogs were outside. While I was loading the dish washer I let the dogs in. At first I could see them playing and eating their dog food. Then it got quiet.
I went in the livingroom and there was Ellie chewing a bunch of Ibuprofen. The boyfriend lost the cap somewhere so Ellie had easy access since the boyfriend left the open bottle on the floor. I freaked and immediately became angry and scared for Ellie.
I banged on their door and demanded they come out to the livingroom. Swearing is usually not my behavior. I just lost it. I told them what happened and it would not have happened if the boyfriend wasn't such a slob, picked up after himself and put things back where he found them. I told them at this point I would fear any grandchild they may give me that their slovenly behavior would be the death of their child. I was speaking loudly. I told them that I don't know how many pills she ate. They are irresponsible. Whenever I am angry I cry (I hate that I do that). I told them that Ellie could die just because of their disrespect of my home and the safety of the animals. I furthermore stated that the boyfriend also needs to stop beating Ellie whenever she does something naughty. I also told my daughter that her boyfriend spends more time with me than she does. Chewing the pills is not Ellie's fault but his. The boyfriend denied beating her as punishment. A lie.
Then what always happens with me the fight got off topic. Disagreements with people seem to always back fire on me and turned around upon me. They both were verbally attacking me (that is what it felt like) regarding other things. I kept trying to get back on topic about what to do about Ellie but they were hell bent to vent their complaints about me. I finally got tired of it and asked them then told them to get out of my face and go to their room and leave me alone. They refused and kept on yapping at me.
I told them I have said all I wanted and I am now done. I got up and went to the one place they would not follow me, the bathroom. I took a shower and cried and cried. When I came out to sit in my chair they both were still there. My daughter had given Ellie a capful of hydrogen peroxide to cause her to vomit. Ellie was vomiting. Then they both started again attacking me on things that had nothing to do with Ellie. They sat in positions directly across from me. Like blocking me in. On and on they went.
I refused to engage other than to say I am done and I said all I wanted to. For about an hour they went on especially the boyfriend. It was ugly and so very hurtful.
It has been a week since that has happened and I still can hear the words they threw at me:
I was acting like a five year old
I was acting like a child
I am unfair to them
I ignore them
I don't care when they are sick
I repeat myself, telling something more than once
Everything has to be about me
I am selfish
My daughter cannot relate to the things I am interested in like current events, pandys and what I watch or read and she does not want to listen to those things
I take advantage of them
What a good mother I turned out to be (heavy sarcasm from my daughter)
Taking me somewhere or going with me anywhere is boring to my daughter so that is why the boyfriend goes with me
I am always in pain so why ask how I am and I don't look for other ways to get rid of my pain.
This is not the daughter I raised. My daughter and her boyfriend do not pay me rent to live here. I bought their car so they could get to work. I paid for their insurance. I pay the utilities. Not too far back on a night that my daughter worked the boyfriend was sick with a 102 degree temp and he thought he was going to die I stayed up all night with him until my daughter got home. I do not throw any of this in their face. I wanted to help them out.
The ending of this fight was interesting. My daughter told her boyfriend to just stop cuz I was done talking. The boyfriend then started to cry saying that at least my daughter has a parent that cares about her and he doesn't. We should openly communicate our complaints. Then he got up and hugged me and said he was sorry which felt fake. He then went right to the bathroom and vomited.
My daughter did not hug me nor did she ever apologize.
While they were yelling at me two of my lady cats were close to me meowing and totally upset. I have never seen them do that. Ellie was sitting between my legs as if protecting me.
Ellie continued to vomit through the night and some contained blood so my daughter called our vets night number. The vet said the blood was from the pills and give her some pepsit. She was her normal sweet puppy after 24 hours. My daughter and boyfriend are still convinced that the vomiting caused the blood and that she did not actually swallow any of the pills.
My sorrow and disappointment are great. I am also confused and bewildered. I find myself doubting myself and think what if all the hurtful things they said not relating to Ellie might be true but logic tells me no. Then I think maybe I am blind to my behaviors. I just don't know. What I do know is I feel even more alone than before.
Blessings to all here