Frustrated at spouse's mental health
I'm a person that sees a problem, names it, and then I go head on into it until it's conquered for the most part. I believe issues can be corrected. I know health can also be improved. My spouse on the other hand is right the opposite.
It feels as though I'm pulling teeth when expecting them to address their issues. If we were not married it would be none of my business, and their pace would be just that.... their pace. However since I'm directly impacted by their issues my expectations are for them to not stop until they have improvement. Ignoring, or being the poor pitiful me person is NOT an option when you have a family.
I'm tired and angry that they are not taking the best care that they can with their health. We've been at this for years, and I'm running out of patience. It seems every six months to a year I find out something more that makes me realize how many issues have been lurking beneath the surface. I am even more pissed off that these issues have been hidden while I kept wondering why in the world their behavior or choices were so destructive. I don't "do" secrets very well, and I sure don't "do" excuses. It's time to have a little face to face talk with some concrete expectations with timeframes. I refuse to feed secrecy and excuses. If anything I will delete those options completely off the map.
My biggest pet peeve in life is a person that will not go to the end of the road to do and try anything to help improve issues. The same pet peeve includes those people that harbor a negative attitude while trying everything "oh this will not work".........As long as a person is negative nothing will work. A positive attitude of "let's do this" will change the world of the person, and the people around the person.