Stupid/hurtful comment from my husband during one of the arguments where he bullies me into having sex... HIM: whats the big problem - its not like its the end of the world, whats the hardship in just laying on your back? ME: I just dont want to do it tonight and I dont see why I should have to do something that I really dont want to do HIM: Well obviously I'm not special enough then. You let 'them' do it so why dont you let me. I wish you made me special like you made them special. *'them' meaning my step-grandfather SA me when I was 5 and my ex getting his own way sexually before my husband (yes, he knows about them).