Were you silenced by someone?
My grandfather told me my father wouldn't love me anymore, but I finally could not take the sexual abuse any longer and told.
2. Have others, besides the abuser, betrayed you? (In relation to your abuser?)
My mother betrayed me because she blamed me for the abuse.
3. Did you tell people in a way other than words about your abuse? (anorexia, withdrawal, etc.)
When I got older, I buried myself in a bottle of beer, but I'm almost 26 years sober now.
4. The dammage of betrayal is deepening the conviction that relationships can neither be enjoyed, trusted, nor expected to last. Do you agree with this statement, why or why not?
The damage of betrayal can take a toll on your relationships, but if you work hard on healing, you will be able to have reasonably successful relationship. It all takes time and energy.
5. How do you see yourself now?
I see myself as a stronger individual traveling a long a very long journey of healing. I see myself as a survivor who is not willing to give the perpetrator power and control over who I am.
6. Have you begun to tell others about your abuse? What have your experiences been like?
I have told a few select people about my sexual abuse outside of Pandy's. The experience has been positive and supportive. However, I feel more support from Pandy members because they know what I am going through.
7. Do you trust others? Do you trust yourself?
I have a difficult time trusting others but am working on it. I am learning to trust that I will make appropriate decisions for myself.
Thank you for posting these questions. They gave me some food for thought.