1.Why heal sexually? What do you want to gain from it? How will your life be different and more satisfying? How will you know when you've gotten what you want?
Simply, I want to feel normal, that I can enjoy sex and not be reminded of the past violations that were done to me. I don't like feeling that my emotional scars get in the way of sexual gratification. Sometimes I'm triggered off and don't know where this intrusiveness came from, and if I felt healed, I can enjoy the other person's company instead of being in my head about the whole thing. I want to assure myself and others that my sexuality isn't the result of some asshole, that my actions are born from my desires and my instincts rather than being driven by fear. I want assurance that my desire for other women isn't because of the stock comments and statements, like, "You haven't found the right man" or "You've had bad experiences with men" or "He made you hate men, so all you need is another man to cure you". I hear things like that and wonder if people are reading these out of books just to infuriate me or because those are the only answers they can give because they don't know the real answer.I'm so glad I bought this book years ago, eventhough it's taking me this long to log my responsesCleis Press