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The Revelation

I was having trouble with an online member of this actors group I belong to. I almost ended up getting the whole group involved, but he sent me a letter back to me saying that this could've been just between the two of us and we could resolve this whole thing better. That's when I got this revelation: My so-called friends who butted in to protect their buddy should've minded their own business. If it hadn't been for them, there would've have been any gossip and misunderstanding. There wouldn't have been so much stress that they added to it. I almost felt guilty for feeling angry towards them at one point, but now I realized that it was none of their business to begin with. One guy starts off saying he knows what happened, which snowballed into drawing out info from me, then sitting around with fellow neighbours to gossip about it and come up with their own conclusions based on their ignorance and misunderstanding about the whole ordeal. If nobody else got involved, things would've rectifiied themselves differently and with less trauma, but instead people's stupid nosiness and meddling got in the way, along with creating barriers and presumptions. If he hadn't been so stubborn and insisted I should and did consent which I didn't, then there would've been some sort of chit-chat. I can't help but think of how overblown this whole mess became, thanks to those idiots who thought they were coming to his rescue, protecting and supporting him which was unnecessary. I also understand what made me so angry. They acted as a barrier for him, so no matter what I wanted to do to resolve this, they were in the way, an obstacle.
 

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