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Posted by kimono , 25 June 2014 · 32 views

I feel like I need to be in control of everything. I feel like I can't allow others to tell me what to do or give them any control over anything to do with me. I use to mistake this for being independent but I was wrong. I find it extremely difficult to let anyone else control anything in my life. I don't know how to fix this.

Jun 25 2014 09:01 PM
Control over what I CAN control makes me feel safer. I like having full control of my life. If it ain't broke... ;-)
I love that you explain it like that. Thank you

Control is a huge issue for many, we find that we are angry when we are not in control, or sad if we are not in control - there are so many emotions that go with control.  Especially with the path that we have walked - having the moment or time when we were "out of control" - so it would seem very normal that we/you would want to be in control.  You can control how you respond, where you go - who you are with, when you leave - there is much you can control.  In any situation - maybe think of the parts of it that you ARE in control of.  IF you are "there" YOU are in control, if you do NOT want to be there you leave - YOU are then in control.  Just knowing that you are needing to be in control is good - you can now watch for it- and comfort yourself.  It is part of wanting to protect yourself.  That is a good thing.  

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