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Day 162: A Question of Confrontation

Posted by intrepidshe , in Crying, Healing Work 21 May 2014 · 210 views

May 21, 2014 Intrepid Age = 91 Days:
I don't know why, but last night I was really amped up and couldn't sleep. I didn't have any specific worries on my mind. I wasn't upset about anything. I wasn't experiencing any pain to speak of. Although, I do have a lot on my shoulders at work. The next three weeks are going to be nearly impossible. Mayb...


Day 161: When I Say I'm OK

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 20 May 2014 · 387 views

May 20, 2014 Intrepid Age = 90 Days:
Warning, a little bit of bad language.
I have two related topics on my mind tonight: (1) What it means to say, "I'm OK," and, (2) I Wish You Hadn't . . .
(1) What it means to say, "I'm OK."
Of late I have been asked with concern, "Are you OK?" by people who care about me. I am learni...


Day 160: The Shame of Needing Mothering

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 19 May 2014 · 416 views

May 19, 2014 Intrepid Age = 89 Days:
I had another anger release at work today. These are starting to happen more often and with greater intensity. A staff member in my office took me aside afterward and asked me what's going on. She's one of the people who knows I'm in T and why. I felt awful when I realized my reaction was intense enough for...


Day 159: Amputated Emotions

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 18 May 2014 · 247 views

May 18, 2014 Intrepid Age = 88 Days:
I am about to take a short road trip with my DS (the older one). I didn't think I'd have time to post today, but I ended up with a little time just now.
The other day I had an intense reaction to the comments associated with my posting about mutual vulnerability . I didn't understand what I was feeli...


Day 158: Off Road

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 17 May 2014 · 206 views

May 17, 2014 Intrepid Age = 87 Days:
When I'm quiet, I am invisibly savage.
At rest I am placidly bloodthirsty. 
A banshee claws inside the armor. 
Reflection is the path to madness.
And headlong through the brambles
these words haunt me, have long hunted me:
It comes...


Day 157: Stuck Brain

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 16 May 2014 · 232 views

May 16, 2014 Intrepid Age = 86 Days:
Not able to write tonight. Even my brain is stuck.


Day 156: Mutual Vulnerability = Ability to Feel Emotions

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 15 May 2014 · 628 views

May 15, 2014 Intrepid Age = 85 Days:
I have a question at the end for anyone who might have an interest in offering ideas, suggestions, experiences.
I read to my T today part 3 of my mother letter. I also told her about what happened on Monday night this week. We had a discussion about my lack of emotion in reading my letter...


Day 155: Hilarity Ensued

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 14 May 2014 · 139 views

May 14, 2014 Intrepid Age = 84 Days:
I worked for just over 12 hours today, but the last four hours were great fun . . . so they can't really count as work. Furthermore, for an hour after this work day I stood in the parking lot visiting with several colleagues. We had an hilarious conversation touching on a random array of tangential topics....


Day 154: Stupid, Risky Decision Turned out OK (Trigger Warning)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 13 May 2014 · 249 views

May 13, 2014 Intrepid Age = 83 Days:
Trigger Warning - mostly for language
I have a confession to make about having made a risky decision yesterday, or rather several of them. It turned out just fine. But, I need to acknowledge what I did, and more importantly, why I did it. It explains why I didn't post last night.


Day 153: No posting

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 13 May 2014 · 56 views

May 12, 2014 Intrepid Age = 82 Days:
I took the night off from posting. Will explain in the Day 154 posting.


Day 152: Minimalist History of Love

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 11 May 2014 · 256 views

May 11, 2014 Intrepid Age = 81 Days:
I have been recently awakened to the intensity of feeling love and of being loved. I can't begin to describe it. This awakening has made me aware of the love that has been in my life throughout my life, minimal as it might have been. I have written extensively about how I have been hurt, neglected, aba...


Day 151: I'm OK. I'm Always OK.

Posted by intrepidshe , in Crying, Touch, Healing Work 10 May 2014 · 275 views

May 10, 2014 Intrepid Age = 80 Days:
I think it's a day for cataloging, after this challenging and tumultuous week.
First of all , I am in need of a place where AngelFriend can touch my neck, shoulders and arm that I feel safe to experience and express my emotions. The space at our workplace is just not sufficiently comfortabl...


Day 150: Mother F-ing letter Part 4 - What I Want from You Now (Major Trigger Warning)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 09 May 2014 · 312 views

May 9, 2014 Intrepid Age = 79 Days:
Dear Pandy's friends, today I wrote the last section of the letter to my mom: "This is what I want from you now."
Before I share this last installment, I want to thank AngelFriend from the bottom of my heart for the time you spent with me yesterday. I spilled my guts for several hours; and you listene...


Day 149: Too Content to Let Mom Intrude

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 08 May 2014 · 175 views

May 8, 2014 Intrepid Age = 78 Days:
Got home very late today after a tough work day and a miraculous conversation with AngelFriend. We talked for a long time. It was very powerful and comforting.
I feel too content tonight to let my mom intrude on this feeling. So, I am not going to finish the letter tonight.
Plus, I have wo...


Day 148: Mother F-ing Letter Part 3 - How it Affected My Life (Major Trigger Warning)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 07 May 2014 · 275 views

May 7, 2014 Intrepid Age = 77 Days:
To my Pandy's friends, I can't tell you how much your support, understanding, comments, and encouragement means to me. I know this has been painful for you to read, possibly as much as it has been for me to write. I am, as always humbled and astonished by the generosity, compassion, and courage you possess....


Day 147: Mother F-ing Letter Part 2 - How I Felt About It (Major Trigger Warning)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 06 May 2014 · 430 views

May 6, 2014 Intrepid Age = 76 Days:
Extreme Trigger Warning
It occurs to me as I face this second section of the letter that you do not deserve the title, "Mom." You were an egg donor, you were an incubator, you were a restaurant (some of the time), you were a landlord (most of the time), but a mom?? Not really. And, I acc...


Day 146: Mother F-ing Letter Part 1 - What You Did to Me (Major Trigger Warning!)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 05 May 2014 · 333 views

May 5, 2014 Intrepid Age = 75 Days:
This is a very triggery post. Please proceed with caution.
Dear Pandy's friends, lend me your eyes please. I need reactions to this. I feel ashamed of having written it. 
As you know, I have been in T in order to reduce or eliminate my fear of doctors. At least, that's what got me to go t...


Day 145: My Mother Can't Love Me (trigger warning)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Neglect, Healing Work 04 May 2014 · 271 views

May 4, 2014 Intrepid Age = 74 Days:
This topic might be triggering for some.

Some weeks ago I began a project working through the book Mothers Who Can't Love . I made it through the first half of the book, learning enlightening things, recognizing the categories of unloving-ness. In the spirit of staying focused on my current healing i...


Day 144: How to be Held - But, How to not be Afraid

Posted by intrepidshe , in Crying, Touch, Healing Work 03 May 2014 · 283 views

May 3, 2014 Intrepid Age = 73 Days:
I have a couple questions at the end of this post I hope others will answer, if they feel comfortable doing so.
I am following advice I received from Jiva about sitting with this topic of touch/nurturing/crying a little longer, perhaps until I reach a place of achievement. I'm not sure quite what "a...


Day 143: Fight, Flight, Freeze, or S** (Trigger Warning)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Crying, Touch, Healing Work 02 May 2014 · 273 views

May 2, 2014 Intrepid Age = 72 Days:
I want to start today's posting with a thank you to MacGyver for sharing his amazing gift of insight. He analyzed a repeating nightmare I have. His interpretation has been immeasurably helpful to me. He gave me permission to share his identity. I'm so glad to get to do so, to give credit...

About Intrepid She

This is a moderated PUBLIC blog. This blog is a therapeutic tool I am using to help me get over my fear of doctors (which is made difficult by a history of abuse by them) to learn to grieve, and ultimately to integrate my dis-integrated heart.


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To the many others walking your own version of this path, I wish you well on your journey. -Intrepid


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