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Day 195: Terrible News in an Inconvenient Place

Posted by intrepidshe , in Crying, Healing Work 23 June 2014 · 217 views

June 23, 2014 Intrepid Age = 123 Days:
I'm home. It feels like I was away for a long time because I haven't been keeping up with other's blogs here. So, I won't do a full posting tonight. I want to catch up with everyone.
I feel exhausted. I am sore from crying. As I wrote that posting last night I cried so much it was nearly impossible to type. It took me until the early hours of the morning this morning to finish and hit submit. I can't believe how much I cried. It felt like it wouldn't stop. But, eventually I ran out of energy and fell asleep. I'm very tired tonight. Hopefully that means I'll sleep well.
It was awful to receive this news the way I did, where I did. I was at the Sarah McLachlan concert, about 15 minutes from the start of the show, sitting next to my sister. It was not a place where I could envision someone experiencing such intense grief, and not a person with whom I could share it. I read the news and realized as I sat there I couldn't keep it together. I excused myself to use the restroom. And, since it was an outdoor venue, they only had pit toilets.
Thankfully I made it to a set of them that was separated. No one else was in that area. I shut myself into a stall, laid my head on my arm and just let the tears come. I cried harder than I ever have. I know that's not saying much since crying is new for me. But, it was so intense I couldn't breath. Maybe that's typical. I don't know.
On the up side, from a healing standpoint, I felt the emotion and was able to let it out. I wish I had someone to share it with, but at least I didn't stuff it in my body.
There are more tears in there. I feel them even now as I write this. But, I'm home and, again, this isn't the place.
Now . . . it's time for me to catch up with everyone's goings on. I know I won't get there in one sitting, but I'm looking forward to reconnecting!

Jun 23 2014 08:10 PM
Jun 23 2014 08:11 PM

Hi Yarn! It's good to be back.

I am so excited you are back! It felt like forever...and I hate that feeling! *happy dance*



Is there a way you can bottle up the trick to crying?

Jun 23 2014 08:40 PM

It felt like forever to me as well. I really missed connecting with everyone.


I am amazed that I've been able to cry! I know I could have times of being stuck and stuffing emotions into my body. I don't expect to eliminate a life-long pattern that easily. But, at least now I have seen it's not just a fluke for me. I received incredibly painful news and my initial reaction to it was to feel the need to cry. It's a big change and it wasn't easy to achieve.


I wish it was something that could be bottled. I imagine it's different for every one of us. For me it was initially about safety combined with safe touch. Safety is still a struggle. But, I'm working on it.

So much pain and love.


Take care.

:hug: Rest well dear friend.

I am very sorry for your loss and yet very happy for your feelings......or rather the ability to feel and express them.

thinking of you <3

Jun 25 2014 11:09 PM

Thanks to all of you, so much, for the compassion and understanding.

About Intrepid She

This is a moderated PUBLIC blog. This blog is a therapeutic tool I am using to help me get over my fear of doctors (which is made difficult by a history of abuse by them) to learn to grieve, and ultimately to integrate my dis-integrated heart.


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To the many others walking your own version of this path, I wish you well on your journey. -Intrepid


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