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Preparing for the Gynecologic Exam (Updated 2/3/14)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work, Gynecology 30 January 2014 · 223 views

Jan. 30, 2014, and Feb. 3, 2014
While I still have this in mind, I want to use this post to keep track of ideas for the physical exam.
  • I need to voice how I'm feeling as I enter the exam room.
  • Maybe I can ask them to remind me I am safe and I'm not in that room where it happened.
  • I think I really want the doctor to tell me she promises I'm safe and she won't hurt me or let anyone hurt me. I think I need to hear those words.
  • I need to be sure I have my asthma inhaler because sometimes getting scared causes me to have an asthma attack.
  • I need to have a plan for what to do if I cry. I never cry. But, what if I did?
  • What to do about the crinkling paper? That was really triggering for me.
  • I need to be sure to ask her to examine the right lower quadrant pain I experience.
  • I also need to mention the itching in my breast.
  • I need to tell her about the right-sided pain that's always there and to be very, very careful on that side.
  • I need to tell her about the symptoms I had when I came back from an expedition, and the symptoms I have had since then.
  • I need to tell her about having many sexual partners through my twenties.
  • I should talk to the doctor about experiencing arousal. I need to hear from her that she will respond appropriately. By that, I mean she will stop touching me. We'll need to define our terms about what arousal is like for me. I know there will be lubrication, that's healthy and normal. But, anything beyond that will be the boundary I will need her to respect.

Jan 30 2014 10:15 PM

About the wrinkling paper...

Could the doctor cover the table with a cloth sheet instead of the paper?  It seems a small thing that could possibly help a lot.

Jan 30 2014 10:19 PM

It's ok if you cry. Just bring some tissues. :cuppa:

Jan 30 2014 10:25 PM

Great idea about using fabric instead of paper. I'll ask! You're a genius!


I am going to tell myself it's OK to cry. God if I did it would be the first time I cried over what happened to me.

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