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Day 49 Happy Thoughts (The Power of Vulnerability)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Happy Things 28 January 2014 · 164 views

Jan. 28, 2014 (Countdown: 2 days to gynecologist consultation):
I have two happy things, the first of which I described in my Healing Work posting, which is the way the support I experience here is soothing me and helping me feel more calm.
The second happy thing today is about vulnerability.
Vulnerability is a happy thing? Posted Image
I am terrified of vulnerability. I equate it with victimization. I equate it with blame. If you are vulnerable, you will be blamed for being victimized.
That's how our society works.
However, perhaps that's not the entire story. I am trying to shift my beliefs about vulnerability . . . well, it's more like I'm trying to understand my beliefs about vulnerability. We'll see about changing them later.
Whether I like it or not, I'm going to be vulnerable through this health care experience. So, I might as well learn about vulnerability through this experience. (Please don't remind me later I said that!) Posted Image
Today in one of the forums someone posted a reference to an author named Brene Brown. (Thanks to LuLu1313 for mentioning the author.)
I looked her up and found several Ted Talks. The one linked below is salient to this topic, and made me laugh several times.
Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability Ted Talk
"Shame is the fear of disconnection. No one wants to talk about it; and the less you talk about it, the more you have it . . . the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they are worthy of love and belonging . . . courage is to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart." People who have a strong sense of love and belonging, "had the courage to be imperfect, they had the compassion to be kind to themselves first, and then to others. They had connection (and this was the hard part) as a result of authenticity . . . They fully embraced vulnerability. They fully believed that what made them vulnerable, made them beautiful. They talked about [vulnerability] being necessary."


Jan 29 2014 10:54 AM

Yes. I do not think it is possible to be authentic without allowing, and embracing, our vulnerability.

You are courageously working toward that.

Still sitting with you. :)

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