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Day 45 Healing Work (Posting Mid-Anxiety Attack)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work 24 January 2014 · 110 views

Jan. 24, 2014 (Countdown: 6 days to gynecologist consultation):
I had a disappointment today that has me feeling . . . I don't know what the emotion is. I have already lost my stomach contents once today. I'm dizzy and nauseous. I guess that's anxiety.
It was a small disappointment and I feel incredibly stupid for having such a big reaction to it.
I'm just so wound up with the upcoming appointment.
I have some homework from my therapist I will do now since it applies to anxiety. But, first I'll explain what happened.
I called the obgyn today to discuss me bringing my letter for her to read in advance. We decided on a time to talk at the end of the day. I called at the appointed time and she didn't answer. Now it's been three hours and no call.
I know that doctors, especially obgyn's, get called into the hospital. She could be working an emergency c-section or delivering triplets. Her car might have broken down. Her child might have gotten sick. There are a thousand, a million, a billion reasons she might not have picked up or called me back. It is not about me. I don't believe it's about me.
But, I got all worked up just contacting her today. I wanted to tell her I don't want my letter in my file. I want her to read it and give it back to me. So, I didn't bring the letter to the clinic. And, I feel bad that I didn't do what was asked. But, I need my boundary respected. There are people I work with who would have access to my patient record. Although they are never supposed to look at people's files, I know damn well this happens! It has happened to me at my last two jobs. I will not allow people to have this information about me. I absolutely am not willing to take that chance.
This sparks my overall anger at health care providers. So many times they have given low-quality care to me. And they have violated my privacy. (Not to mention the one who r---- me!).
I'm all spun up with anger now and it hurts. It gives me sharp, stabbing pains in my guts.
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And, for no good reason. It was just a missed phone call.
OK. now I will do the three exercises and try to bring down this anxiety. After I complete this posting I'll take a shower.
I. Body Sensations Questionnaire (current sensations):
  • Heart palpitations
  • Dizziness
  • Nausea
  • Butterflies in stomach
  • Knots in stomach
  • Wobbly feeling
  • Pain in my back. neck. and shoulders
  • Tingling of my scalp
II. Panic Attack Questionnaire (current thoughts/ideas):
  • I am going to lose my stomach contents again. It won't be long from now. I can feel it building up.
  • My central muscles are going to spasm uncontrollably.
  • Then I'm going to pass out.
III. Fear of Feeling Exercise:
  • I am remembering that these feelings are nothing more than an exaggeration of the normal bodily functions.
  • These feelings are not harmful or dangerous - just unpleasant. Nothing worse will happen. (I might get sick again, and get a migraine. I'm OK as long as I don't drive when I'm in this condition. So, I won't drive and nothing worse will happen.)
  • I will not have any more frightening thoughts to add to the anxiety by thinking about what might happen.
  • I am noticing that I have a lot of pain in my body as well as the nausea and stomach cramps. That's all it is. Nothing worse than that.
  • I will give it more time to pass. I won't fight it. I won't run away from it. I accept these feelings.
  • Once I stop adding frightening thoughts to the anxiety it starts to fade.
  • I am practicing coping with this fear. I am not avoiding it because if I avoid it I won't get better.
  • I have made progress already, despite how much worse I feel. I haven't SI'd. I haven't done anything risky. I haven't crawled into bed to escape. And, with this posting I will have told someone. I will not have kept it a secret. That's progress. I will succeed with time.
  • When I begin to feel better I will look around me and start to plan what to do next.
  • When I am ready to go on I will start off in a relaxed, easy way. I will be gentle with myself. I will not be in a hurry.

Jan 24 2014 11:29 PM

It's now a couple hours later and I'm doing much better. I'm tired and still having mild symptoms, but definitely improved.

Jan 27 2014 12:18 PM

You've done so very well.  :metoyou:

Jan 28 2014 12:38 AM

Thanks. I do so enjoy flowers. :-)

I really admire this post

Apr 10 2014 05:46 PM
Thanks Mac!

About Intrepid She

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