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Day 140: I Asked Her to Hold Me

Posted by intrepidshe , in Touch, Gynecology, Healing Work 29 April 2014 · 415 views

Apr. 29, 2014 Intrepid Age = 69 Days:
 
I had an appointment today for more touch desensitization. The last time my friend touched me I had an anxiety attack, including myoclonic jolts that lasted for something like 20 minutes. Today before we headed for the exam room (we used an exam room because it would help me desensitize for...


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Day 139: Feeling Scared Again, Plan for Touch

Posted by intrepidshe , in Touch, Gynecology, Healing Work 28 April 2014 · 258 views

Apr. 28, 2014 Intrepid Age = 68 Days:
 
Tomorrow I have an appointment for more touch. My T encouraged me, and Jiva has encourage me too, to talk to my friend about my needs and my fears. I feel the need to share this publicly as my fear level is pretty high again. This exercise will help me name and challenge my fears. The blue t...


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Day 135: Successful ObGyn Appointment

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 24 April 2014 · 341 views

Apr. 24, 2014 Countdown: 3 hours after ObGyn Appointment (64 Days Into Becoming):
 
Wow, I feel great! The appointment went really well and I learned some incredibly helpful things. She gave me amazing, empowering information I have needed for such a long time! I have a weird form of thyroid disease and she was able to identify a possible e...


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Day 134: T and ObGyn Tomorrow **TW** and Mom Stuff (very triggery)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 23 April 2014 · 810 views

Apr. 23, 2014 Countdown: 18 hours to ObGyn Appointment (63 Days Into Becoming):
 
I didn't think I would go to work today when I posted last night, but I was well enough today. Last night I had a migraine and was sick to my stomach. But, I had lots of comforting support here in Pandy's and I even reached out by phone to my doctor friend. As...


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Day 133: I Let a Doctor Hurt Me Today **TW**

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work, Touch 22 April 2014 · 338 views

Apr. 22, 2014 Countdown: 2 days to ObGyn Appointment (62 Days Into Becoming):
 
It is clear that I still have a lot of ground to go with regard to how I deal with doctors. Today another one of my colleagues asked me about my wrist. I responded the same way I usually do and changed the subject. I tried to get her talking about herself. But, somet...


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Day 132: ObGyn Visit Plan

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 21 April 2014 · 319 views

Apr. 21, 2014 Countdown: 3 days to ObGyn Appointment (61 Days Into Becoming):
I will recognize that I'm feeling anxiety now, even though I haven't been willing to pay attention to it. I have a headache and I didn't sleep well the last few nights. My shoulders hurt, and I have felt very aggressive at work.
I will ask my T to call the ObGyn again to...


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Day 131: Fear, I mean, Four Days to Next ObGyn Appointment

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 20 April 2014 · 323 views

Apr. 20, 2014 Countdown: 4 days to ObGyn Appointment (60 Days Into Becoming):
 
In light of my recent reactions to doctor appointments, I decided I'll write my list of fears, in order to give myself a few days to think about it, hear from others, and work on my plan. On the up side, this will be a talk only appointment. On the down side i...


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Day 129: Reflecting, Breathing, Preparing for ObGyn

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 18 April 2014 · 273 views

Apr. 18, 2014 Countdown: 6 days to ObGyn Appointment (58 Days Into Becoming):
 
It sure has been an active stretch of time in this healing process the last few weeks! I know I push myself really hard, sometimes too much so. But then there are days like yesterday and today which provide the rewards for the effort. Besides . . . pushing hard is i...


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Day 128: My Heart is Soaring Despite My Wounds

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 17 April 2014 · 277 views

Apr. 17, 2014 (57 Days Into Becoming):
 
I imagine if a bird is sick or wounded (so long as it's not terribly sick or wounded) it can still fly. And, what a thing it is to fly! 
 
This metaphor describes my state of being today.
 
I guess healing is like this sometimes . . . maybe much of the time. I felt in the pits of despair on...


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Day 126: Agony from Unshed Tears, Hope from Compassionate Help

Posted by intrepidshe , in Crying, Gynecology, Healing Work 15 April 2014 · 350 views

Apr. 15, 2014 (55 Days Into Becoming):
 
Tax day. I don't even know if my husband has done our taxes. And, I have no emotional resources to contend with the answer to the question. So, I haven't and will not even ask. I know he will get it done. He always has. We just had a complicated year this year and it's been difficult to get all of the document...


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Day 125: Panic Attack with Today's Touch Appointment

Posted by intrepidshe , in Touch, Gynecology, Healing Work 14 April 2014 · 297 views

Apr. 14, 2014 (54 Days Into Becoming):
 
So, I had a panic attack and dissociated during my appointment today. Last night I had a huge sense of foreboding about today, not about being harmed, but about my emotions surfacing. I haven't got a plan for that. I haven't discussed it with her. I have been too afraid. What if she doesn't want to keep t...


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Day 118: 2nd Time of a Doctor Touching Me

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 07 April 2014 · 292 views

Apr. 7, 2014 (47 Days Into Becoming):
 
For an hour today a doctor laid hands on me (not for treatment, just touching me to help me as a friend, helping me learn to be comfortable with touch). My body had its anxiety reactions (trembling, quaking, and little convulsions) the whole time. And she was great about it. She told me she was sorry for the th...


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Day 117: Fears and Plans for Tomorrow's Doctor Appointment

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 06 April 2014 · 297 views

Apr. 6, 2014 (21.5 hours until appointment , 46 Days Into Becoming):
 
I've managed not to think too much about this until just now: tomorrow I have a doctor appointment to look at my neck and shoulder. I have pain in my wrist and arm that seems to be caused by proximal nerve impingement. If I go through with the appointment I'll probably find o...


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Day 114: A Doctor Touched Me Today

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work, Touch 03 April 2014 · 323 views

Apr. 3, 2014 (43 Days Into Becoming):
 
I work with physicians every day. I spend a lot of time around them in settings outside of clinics and hospitals in meetings. In these settings they are just co-workers. They aren't wearing lab coats. They're just people who want to make the world a better place. We work toward that purpose with great enth...


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Day 111: A 40 Days Reflection (TW for slight mention of religious ideas - though I am not religious)

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 31 March 2014 · 212 views

Mar. 31, 2014 (40 Days Into Becoming):
 
Forty days ago was the first day after my gynecologic appointment. Because of my upbringing as an Irish Catholic, the concept of 40 days is potent to me. I no longer accept any religion, but I still feel deeply moved by the ideas I learned growing up Catholic.
 
Forty days ago I was trembling and triumpha...


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Day 108: Making Sense of Family Betrayal

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 28 March 2014 · 262 views

Mar. 28, 2014 (37 Days Into Becoming):
 
First a news item: I have a doctor appointment with the ObGyn on April 24th. By then the lab results should all be in. I'll begin working another process to prepare for and cope with this second step in my healthcare process.
 
Second, I learned something important and sad last night in writing my posting...


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Day 99: The Gynecologist R* Me >>major trigger warning<<

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 19 March 2014 · 7,580 views

Mar. 19, 2014 (28 Days Into Becoming):
 
Regarding my posting from yesterday, with some wonderful ideas and encouragement I plan to pursue the project. I have ordered a few books that will help me work my way through it.
 
In the meantime, there are parts of my story I have posted in non-public forums here in Pandy's. Some of these I want visib...


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Day 96: Deepening Understanding of Doctor Fear **trigger warning**

Posted by intrepidshe , in Gynecology, Healing Work 16 March 2014 · 279 views

Mar. 16, 2014 (25 Days Into Becoming):
 
My homework from my therapist is a continuance of the 50 statements exercise . When she gave me the 50 statements assignment I wanted to focus on my thoughts about doctors. I am sure these thoughts reflect ideas I have about other areas of my life. However, I might end up redoing this whole exercise with a d...


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Day 72: Should I be All Better Now?

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work, Gynecology 20 February 2014 · 223 views

Feb. 20, 2014 (Countdown: 26 hours after gynecologic exam):
 
I think today is the last time I will reference the "countdown." I still have more healthcare encounters to get through. I will still be working hard to prepare for and cope with them, but it seems the greatest battle has been won.
 
Today might also be the last time I use the da...


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Day 71: Letter to Gynecologist after Today's Appt

Posted by intrepidshe , in Healing Work, Gynecology 19 February 2014 · 877 views

Feb. 19, 2014 (Countdown Part II-rewind:  1 hour after gynecologic exam):
 
Dr. W-H. 
 
Please forgive this long letter.
 
Today you cared for me. You didn't just treat me. You cared for me. I was frightened and trembling, but you were calm and reassuring. It has taken months of preparation for this appointment tod...






About Intrepid She

This is a moderated PUBLIC blog. This blog is a therapeutic tool I am using to help me get over my fear of doctors (which is made difficult by a history of abuse by them) to learn to grieve, and ultimately to integrate my dis-integrated heart.

 

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To the many others walking your own version of this path, I wish you well on your journey. -Intrepid

 

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