1. He says I have to see a therapist like ASAP. First, I feel like that's my decision. Second, if I decide to go, ill go when I am ready. I don't appreciate him holding our relationship over my head as leverage.
2. It's a Sunday night and he's been out drinking with his friends. My boyfriend is 31. He does this ridiculous running group where they just get really wasted every week. I wish he didn't because. Most of these people are crazy; they drink all the time and make horrible decisions. Besides, he's an adult but he's acting like a 21 year old frat boy . We're just so different. I don't know if he will grow out of this insane partying stage. Is it ridiculous that it's becoming a major deal breaker for
The thing is, my r--- happened at a party. I only had one drink but still. And then, when I was younger, my dad was a pothead and drank a lot. I wasn't allowed over there because of it. But my
Mom was also a heavy drinker. She was always passed out drunk when I was a kid. To top that off, I've been struggling with alcohol lately. He has asked (more like told) me To stop drinking. I don't think it's fair for him to ask me that and keep going out and partying.
I don't know how to confront him about it. Anytime I try to talk to him about not drinking as much or whatever, he says I'm acting crazy. Maybe I am but I feel like he's being a hypocrit. And if he thinks I shouldn't drink, I think he should be supportive and join me. But his friends always seem to come first.
Don't get me wrong - I love his main group of friends. I hate his drunk running friends. They do drugs and mostly, they have completely different values than me. So I am beginning to wonder if he does too.
So anyway he went to his running group at 3. It's 11 pm now. I didn't see him yesterday because he was out with his friends too. He said he'd be home at 6, then it was 10, and now it's 12 because "there was a pool." I'm just not sure if this is what I want in a relationship. I don't want to have to force him to be responsible, not to drink, etc. there are guys out there who don't do that stuff. Problem is I do love him. I just don't know if it's something I can live with.