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Abuser trait

Posted by Orchid , 10 May 2016 · 52 views

As I continue to reflect upon what impact abusers have on their victims, I've come to realize that the worst component is when we adopt their traits.  I see more and more adult survivors adopting traits of their abusers.  Adult survivors that lack ethics by lying to manipulate the environment to obtain their own needs is a mirror image of what t...


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Not disclosing versus disclosing

Posted by Orchid , 05 February 2016 · 77 views

I am fortunate enough to work in a wonderful healthcare setting where I am a member of a large team of different clinicians that review the medical status of a patient.  Because I am a survivor and educator I have a strong understanding of the complexities surrounding abuse that others may not have.  I can typically gather enough information fro...


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Not disclosing versus disclosing

Posted by Orchid , 05 February 2016 · 66 views

I am fortunate enough to work in a wonderful healthcare setting where I am a member of a large team of different clinicians that review the medical status of a patient.  Because I am a survivor and educator I have a strong understanding of the complexities surrounding abuse that others may not have.  I can typically gather enough information fro...


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Confusion to why

Posted by Orchid , 31 December 2014 · 118 views

I've been able to process the reason's why I was abused.  My mother was abused and had mental health issues.  My brothers were abused.  This combination made the environment abuse reactive, and I was the youngest.
 
What hurts now is not understanding adults with no mental health issues, or history of abuse, that are manipulative or no...


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Pakistan

Posted by Orchid , 04 December 2014 · 111 views

Is there anyone on here from Pakistan?  I would like to know how abuse is addressed?  Are there available resources such as counseling?  Is there a cultural expectation that abuse doesn't occur, shouldn't be talked about, or that abuse shouldn't leave scars?   I have a friend that is from Pakistan, but the advice I'm receiving ten...


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Bill Cosby

Posted by Orchid , 26 November 2014 · 238 views

Having a hard time with the Facebook comments about the Bill Cosby incidents.  I need to let it go......and not allow it to interrupt my life, but it's difficult.


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Sexual abuse survivors NOT represented.

Posted by Orchid , 30 July 2014 · 129 views

The following website is used in places such as hospitals to assist staff/clinicians in understanding the complexities of different cultures or populations.  The website includes information on "Intimate Partner Violence, and Refugees/Torture Survivors", but does NOT include information on adult survivors of sexual abuse.  Please use the followi...


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Understanding the brain and trauma

Posted by Orchid , 15 July 2014 · 152 views


 
 
 



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Neurobiology of Trauma

Posted by Orchid , 01 April 2014 · 159 views

http://www.youtube.c...WcFPfpAyo#t=210


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One more blog for the day. The apology

Posted by Orchid , 19 March 2014 · 235 views

How many of us burn from hatred because an apology was never given.
 
This doesn't have to be just the pedophile's apology, but maybe the apology from the spouse, the neighbor, the coworker, the boyfriend, or girlfriend.
 
Why is an apology so difficult.  Why is it so important?  For me it shows that the other person finally recognizes...






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