Do we hurt others?
On a daily basis I watch people do very harmful things in small subtle ways in their relationships. I watch men lie to their wife or significant other. I watch people hide things, or manipulate a situation. I watch women make choices in conversations that is manipulative.
These subtle but still very harmful actions make me mad. What I see is deception. I can see that people are who they are for reasons, but their actions can still be harmful.......
My questions is to those of us that have been abused.....
How many of us allow our issues to hurt other people? Our attitudes, actions/behaviors, choices, secrecy, emotional walls, deception, manipulation, addictions, and yes playing the victim?
Do we ever stop and think we can't hide or use the excuse of abuse to allow us to make harmful decisions. I'm not talking about a person that has been abused so much that mental health is at a critical level of instability. I'm talking about those of us who are decently functioning within the society.
I think a good question to ask ourself or too hold ourself accountable is: "Am I hurting another person by not dealing with my pain, and by making poor choices, or having harmful actions".
Think about it. Why do some of us get a free pass on hurting another human being, just because we have the victim card in our pocket?
If we don't think about our actions and hurt another person, aren't we stepping into the same zone as predators, by not thinking about another person.
I'm not talking about those of us that are doing the best we can do by tapping into any and all resources available. I'm talking about the person that never thinks about what they are doing, declines help or doesn't tap into resources to try to change.
I don't like these types of people, and I don't like myself very much when I fail to do what I should.