Making Progress? Or set back?
The lady in the SCO was very helpful. She told me all the things that the university does to protect the victims in this process and I was so grateful. She also told me that in the university environment, when its a he said, she said situation, they tend to lean toward the statement of the victim. There are several options for disciplinary action should they determine that what happened was rape and the degree varies with the degree of perpetration. They even allow the victim to have a say in the punishment which is most likely suspension or dismissal from campus. At the very least, he will be told to leave me completely alone and cease all forms of communication.
Now my decision lies in what will be best for me... Is it time to fight this one? Do I have the strength? I'm taking some quite time to figure that out right now. Although part of me wanted to give my statement right then and there, I've classically made way too many decisions too quickly and regretted them. I want to be sure that this is what I want, need, and have to courage to do for myself and not because I was thrusted into it by someone else.
Source: "Grey area" rape