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Denial is the worst part, especially self denial, as you can't not comprehended how you said no and still your boundaries so broken. I find it disturbing that men are taught to treat women like a commodity and disregard them when they say no. They get mad and pissed off, and they completely write you off as a person if you don’t want to engage in sexual activity… either that or they are even taught to go as far as lying and telling a women whatever she needs to hear to get them in bed. I kind of wish all the rapist and pedophiles could just be shot…. They don’t deserve to live… and women don’t deserve the treatment they get from society and the police. Especially when you didn’t want to engage in sexual activity. It makes me so sad when a girl has to fight about what she didn’t want and having to justify how they ended up sleeping together. Ah, this is why women are crazy, and hate men….
And even within the culture of dating I feel like so much of it is about degrading women. Women are taught from such a young age that sex is suppose to be private, and between people that love each other. We are engrained by churches that if we aren't a virgin than we are going to hell. We are taught that guys are suppose to treat you a certain way or that your suppose to start off a relationship on trust. Yet guys are taught completely opposite, they are suppose to lie about everything as long as it gets results. If she says no, they just to keep trying. and If you aren't trying to be a slut yet get lied to all the time in relation to trying to find a meaningful relationship than your called slut or a whore...
And just the whole rape culture its self. Because of the pornography industry people now actually try to trouchure themselves with pleasure to the ultimate dysfunction. I hate the pornography industry and I feel like I am alone in this. I feel like so much of porn is about hurting women. Hurting the idea that sex at one point was suppose to mean love and bounding so much of what is engrained for us to believe... I find it even more disturbing the women that are so mental distroy'ed that the don't even stand up for themselves or engage in it as if it is a norm. I feel like rape has been so normalized in so many aspects of our life. Between porn and law and order, which constantly brings up victims of rape often in which the guilty guys never even have to take responsibility for there actions. I just hate feeling like Im suppose to fear the opposite sex, or what the whole culture has seemed to turn into. I wish Hugh Hefner never invented porn.... It just hurts my heart to think that so many women have to go through this... and the hardest part seems to be trying to separate yourself from. It never, bother me so much until the last time I was raped. So much myself has been defined by what has happened to me. It has defined me, as I have always had a good sense of myself, but it did defined how I thought, and my actions. I feel like I can't even properly remember the last two years of my life and so much of it has been trying to rebuild myself from what happened. Its not a part of me, it isn't me or who I am. Removing myself from what had happened to where and what I want to do with my life. To stop being so scared, all the issues with intimacy. I just hate that it happens that often not only to you fall victimized by the abuser, but also the police in the matter.
And even within the culture of dating I feel like so much of it is about degrading women. Women are taught from such a young age that sex is suppose to be private, and between people that love each other. We are engrained by churches that if we aren't a virgin than we are going to hell. We are taught that guys are suppose to treat you a certain way or that your suppose to start off a relationship on trust. Yet guys are taught completely opposite, they are suppose to lie about everything as long as it gets results. If she says no, they just to keep trying. and If you aren't trying to be a slut yet get lied to all the time in relation to trying to find a meaningful relationship than your called slut or a whore...
And just the whole rape culture its self. Because of the pornography industry people now actually try to trouchure themselves with pleasure to the ultimate dysfunction. I hate the pornography industry and I feel like I am alone in this. I feel like so much of porn is about hurting women. Hurting the idea that sex at one point was suppose to mean love and bounding so much of what is engrained for us to believe... I find it even more disturbing the women that are so mental distroy'ed that the don't even stand up for themselves or engage in it as if it is a norm. I feel like rape has been so normalized in so many aspects of our life. Between porn and law and order, which constantly brings up victims of rape often in which the guilty guys never even have to take responsibility for there actions. I just hate feeling like Im suppose to fear the opposite sex, or what the whole culture has seemed to turn into. I wish Hugh Hefner never invented porn.... It just hurts my heart to think that so many women have to go through this... and the hardest part seems to be trying to separate yourself from. It never, bother me so much until the last time I was raped. So much myself has been defined by what has happened to me. It has defined me, as I have always had a good sense of myself, but it did defined how I thought, and my actions. I feel like I can't even properly remember the last two years of my life and so much of it has been trying to rebuild myself from what happened. Its not a part of me, it isn't me or who I am. Removing myself from what had happened to where and what I want to do with my life. To stop being so scared, all the issues with intimacy. I just hate that it happens that often not only to you fall victimized by the abuser, but also the police in the matter.
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