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I have problems trusting not only him but everyone else in my life and when my boyfriend mentions going out without me, all I can picture is him getting drunk and cheating on me. He hasn't given me reasons to believe that he will but I am terrified that everyone I know and love is going to hurt me and the way he can really hurt me is by cheating on me. This results in me getting upset every time he tells me that he might go out and meet up with some friends. I know that it is healthy to have a life outside of each other as well but im set off by the life that he wants to have outside of me is a life of partying.
So when my boyfriend told me again after a week of living together that he is feeling constricted again, it basically set off a panic reaction and now all I do is sit around and obsess about it. It is setting off a bunch of red flags for me. I spoke to my therapist about it and he said that this is pretty typical emotions but I am going to need to be patient to see if he can be the man that I need. I dont know if I should give him more space or what. If anyone has any suggestions I am open to it.