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I am willing to say or write the things that happened, but others are unwilling to listen or read. It is easier to allow it to fall under an catch-all umbrella of "sexual childhood abuse," than it is to know the details. Why do we consider that those things we survived as children, are too difficult for adults to hear? We actually have to pay someone to listen, and try to sort out if the payee is a qualified listener.
Aren't we also protecting our abusers by not speaking openly? They fall under the neatly contained word, "pedophile," but those who haven't experienced that type of abuse cannot appreciate the life-long pain inflicted on survivors. By time we're adults, we are expected to "be over it," the pedophile nothing more than a painful memory. Since we know that a pedophile will remain a pedophile, doesn't this also let them "off the hook?"
I need to speak freely, and I need to maintain the warning against the perpetrator. Taboo denies me both.