Innapropriate comment by neighbor (Might Trigger)
First why the hell is it wrong not to throw your kids out on the street at 18 and yell get married and have kids. Why the hell do people go straight to the thought that if you have a son over 18 still living at home that it is the mother making them stay or the relationship is innapropriate at any level. My son is grown he can move out anytime he wants, I do not keep him here.
I came inside and mentioned what this idiot said and my son did nothing about it. I am not sure if I am right in expecting him to get up and say something to the idiot. Now I am angry at my son for not standing up and putting this man in his place. My emotions are so confused. I do not want my son staying at home because he feels that he should be there for me and his sisters, yet I do not feel as a parent I should kick him out of my home. He is a quiet young man who works comes home, takes part time college courses. That is what his life consist of. Do I make him go out and get under the burden of rent and bills just because he turns a certain age?
How can anyone jump to the place in there head that since my son is grown and still living at home that we would having a "relationship" other than mother and son. I have never done anything anywhere at home or in public that could ever be seen as a relationship other than mother and son.
I wonder if someone would say anything about my son still living at home if I were still married. Is it because I am a single mother? I did not tell their father to leave he is the one who walked out. So since my ex husband left 20 years into the marriage am I to drop the values that we always believed in with our kids, which was to allow them to live at home as long as they were working or going to college if they were single. If he was married it would be different, or if he was just a kid laying around, getting into trouble and just being a bum. Even in that circumstance is it anyone's business who lives in my home and how long.
This has turned into rambling. I am just so upset, I know what real abuse is and what it is like to live with a parent who sexually abused me. I can assure you that at 21 with a job if I was abusing my son he would get the hell out. I left the state I was born in the moment I turned 18 to get away from the abuse. Generally kids who are being abused who have the resources to leave do so.