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I went through the 20-year abusive marriage. I am now in a place where I am raising my four beautiful children. Into my life comes another woman. It was unexpected and we fell in love. I am no longer a believer in love conquers all. It is a load of crap, if that were true than my love for my ex husband would have conquered his need for pornography, other woman and hitting me.
This is not a good relationship. I no longer want her in my life. I try to talk to her and work things out and she just talks about herself, I feel guilty. Why is it my issue to make her happy. I no longer want to be in another relationship like this. Is this what life is all about, if so then I never want to be in another relationship.
I had a migraine yesterday. I gave the phone to my 19 yr old son and told him if anyone called to tell them I had a migraine and would return calls the next day. She called several times that day mad because I would not talk to her on the phone. Like I was purposedly doing something to her. She got angry and left a message because my son did not answer the phone one time when she called, because he was in the middle of moving a piece of furniture. It was his day off of work and he was helping one of his sisters move some furniture around in her room.
I have four teenagers, three girls and they do not demand this type of attention from me. If I have a migraine or I am sick they are not constantly in my face. They may come in my room to check on me to see if I need anything. I have bone cancer and though I am no longer on chemo, my cancer is terminal, and every so often I just can not physically go because of the physical pain.
I think that my life should be focused on my kids right now. They have gone through two years of chemo with me. I want to enjoy being with them. They are supportive of me whatever I choose a relationship or not. I have tried to break this relationship off in a friendly way. I guess I am going to have to just go off and make her angry so she leaves me alone.
I guess I am just rambling. Need to get it off of my chest.
This is not a good relationship. I no longer want her in my life. I try to talk to her and work things out and she just talks about herself, I feel guilty. Why is it my issue to make her happy. I no longer want to be in another relationship like this. Is this what life is all about, if so then I never want to be in another relationship.
I had a migraine yesterday. I gave the phone to my 19 yr old son and told him if anyone called to tell them I had a migraine and would return calls the next day. She called several times that day mad because I would not talk to her on the phone. Like I was purposedly doing something to her. She got angry and left a message because my son did not answer the phone one time when she called, because he was in the middle of moving a piece of furniture. It was his day off of work and he was helping one of his sisters move some furniture around in her room.
I have four teenagers, three girls and they do not demand this type of attention from me. If I have a migraine or I am sick they are not constantly in my face. They may come in my room to check on me to see if I need anything. I have bone cancer and though I am no longer on chemo, my cancer is terminal, and every so often I just can not physically go because of the physical pain.
I think that my life should be focused on my kids right now. They have gone through two years of chemo with me. I want to enjoy being with them. They are supportive of me whatever I choose a relationship or not. I have tried to break this relationship off in a friendly way. I guess I am going to have to just go off and make her angry so she leaves me alone.
I guess I am just rambling. Need to get it off of my chest.
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Thank you very much
DTC
Thank you for your encouragement. I appreciate your offer of someone to talk to. I might take you up on that offer somedays when the pain from the cancer is bad or if I have a question you might be able to help me with as far as dealing with family members that are having to endure this journey with me if that is okay.
DTC