I am in CONSTANT struggle... Who is my ally; who is not my ally? Occasionally I step outside of my comfort zone and reveal a teeny part of myself to test the water. That happened this week.... A meme/photo came up on Facebook. "My rapist doesn't know he's a rapist" read the sign. A beautiful young woman in her 20s held the sign along with a brief description of her experience. I reposted the picture. I hesitated but went forward with reposting. I honestly felt that it would go "unnoticed", even by my feminist girlfriends. But.... I got 2 "like"s... From women I didn't expect would pay any heed to that "silly" post.
Then later that day one of those "like"s emailed me her story. The story of a woman who was sexually abused by a person in authority. A story that outlined a woman maligned and a man revered.
Why is this OUR shame? Why does our society lay the responsibility of the shame... The crime... The heinousnes on the innocent?