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I visited my hometown
so that I could drop off Christmas presents
for my brother and nephew
(am I ever early !!!!!!!!!)
brother will be getting 3 hockey plaques
( they will probably stay with nephew)
and a dvd of one of his favourite bands
nephew got a winter jacket
winters are bitterly cold in my hometown
(I got frostbite just walking to school)
a glow in the dark tshirt of horses
and a really sharp dress shirt
everything fits
which is good
cause he has really grown !!!!!!
the rest of the day was suppose to be:
1) MORE SHOPPING
2) a movie matinee
3) supper with him at his group home
the revised day was
a frustrating phone call with an aunt about who replaces mom as next of kin
" he is being financially taken of, what else does he need ?"
( oh maybe visits from other relatives or phonecalls )
he has severe autism and is non verbal
my mom was his only visitor since his group home placements
and given my family's guilt tripping of me NOT visiting the relatives
I have to wonder about the double standard
trying to locate my mom
the group home could not reach her
nor could I
a neighbour was kind enough to tell me
when she noticed me wandering around the property
that Mom was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago
no relative thought that myself, my very ill brother or nephew needed to be notified
or who would act on my mom's behalf
for my brother or nephew given my mom's ill health
it is also my mom's birthday this week
and no one made arrangement for my nephew
to see his grandmother
my relatives guilt trip me for missing family furnerals
while they completely ignore my dead sister's son
the legal red tape it takes to unravel
his status
could easily circle the world
at least a half dozen times !!
it is normal for family members to go missing in my family
they resent my disappearance
I have had the same address and phone number for years
and my nephew's life plan
in theory contains references
to contact with the family
well at least on paper !
It will soon be
well have my mom's worker contact my nephew's worker
oh and could those 2 workers contact my brother's worker
and for real excitement all 3 workers
will be contacted by my worker of the day !!!!
Families !!!!
Workers !!!!!
should I mention that I have a huge extended family
who refuses to recognize family values as defined
by government officials
and family dynamics
compounded by inter agency dynamics !!!!!
and when you need to go to case conferences
tp plan Christmas visits
(angelic smile)
so that I could drop off Christmas presents
for my brother and nephew
(am I ever early !!!!!!!!!)
brother will be getting 3 hockey plaques
( they will probably stay with nephew)
and a dvd of one of his favourite bands
nephew got a winter jacket
winters are bitterly cold in my hometown
(I got frostbite just walking to school)
a glow in the dark tshirt of horses
and a really sharp dress shirt
everything fits
which is good
cause he has really grown !!!!!!
the rest of the day was suppose to be:
1) MORE SHOPPING
2) a movie matinee
3) supper with him at his group home
the revised day was
a frustrating phone call with an aunt about who replaces mom as next of kin
" he is being financially taken of, what else does he need ?"
( oh maybe visits from other relatives or phonecalls )
he has severe autism and is non verbal
my mom was his only visitor since his group home placements
and given my family's guilt tripping of me NOT visiting the relatives
I have to wonder about the double standard
trying to locate my mom
the group home could not reach her
nor could I
a neighbour was kind enough to tell me
when she noticed me wandering around the property
that Mom was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago
no relative thought that myself, my very ill brother or nephew needed to be notified
or who would act on my mom's behalf
for my brother or nephew given my mom's ill health
it is also my mom's birthday this week
and no one made arrangement for my nephew
to see his grandmother
my relatives guilt trip me for missing family furnerals
while they completely ignore my dead sister's son
the legal red tape it takes to unravel
his status
could easily circle the world
at least a half dozen times !!
it is normal for family members to go missing in my family
they resent my disappearance
I have had the same address and phone number for years
and my nephew's life plan
in theory contains references
to contact with the family
well at least on paper !
It will soon be
well have my mom's worker contact my nephew's worker
oh and could those 2 workers contact my brother's worker
and for real excitement all 3 workers
will be contacted by my worker of the day !!!!
Families !!!!
Workers !!!!!
should I mention that I have a huge extended family
who refuses to recognize family values as defined
by government officials
and family dynamics
compounded by inter agency dynamics !!!!!
and when you need to go to case conferences
tp plan Christmas visits
(angelic smile)
Tags: Family drama and dynamics
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the aunt who died is mentioned in this entry
danusia007,
20 January 2009 - 02:18 PM
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