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Nephew's father

19 June 2008
Posted by danusia007   in career MY CAREER, CLINICAL SERVICES health serv..., CLINICAL SERVICES housing, CLINICAL SERVICES support, My Family NEPHEW
Some day, maybe when my life is more settled,

I might find a way to answer my nephew's question about his father

I wish I could do it like in North Country


The counsellor of the day was not helpful with this either


How do I tell my nephew that his father raped his mom ?

What words could I possibly use ???

Tags: Nephew his dad raped my sister

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Posted by danusia007   in career MY CAREER
Children would disclose to me at work,
in the quiet area,
in the gym,
at snack time,
while playing at the water table

some were reported to Child Protection

Child protection would sometimes phone me

supposedly, the disclosing stopped after I left

I often wonder hat happened to them.

Trigger warnings


one client killed his...
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Tags: assaults at work

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Posted by danusia007   in career MY CAREER, CLINICAL SERVICES health serv..., CLINICAL SERVICES housing, CLINICAL SERVICES support, My Family I salute my brother, My Family MOM the delimna perp and survivor, My Family NEPHEW, My Family OLDER BROTHER Perp and Victim, My Family SISTER, MY HEALING CIRCLE, MY STORY, PROFILE, REFLECTIONS, support
If coping is not the healing

then I am still coping

with a lot of after affects

a permanent disability

where the professional agenda is about my coping

the courage to heal however includes coping as part of taking stock

the flooding of memories seems to be impairs my cognitive skills

and my ability to function

the professional denial seems...
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August 20 2007

20 August 2007
Posted by danusia007   in career MY CAREER, CLINICAL SERVICES health serv..., CLINICAL SERVICES housing, CLINICAL SERVICES support, My Family I salute my brother, My Family MOM the delimna perp and survivor, My Family NEPHEW, My Family OLDER BROTHER Perp and Victim, My Family SISTER, MY HEALING CIRCLE, MY HEALING CIRCLE my books, MY HEALING CIRCLE My Movies, MY HEALING CIRCLE My Music, MY HEALING CIRCLE sometimes a friend, My HEALING CIRCLE Virtual Parties, MY RAPIST, MY STALKER AND ASSAILANT, MY STORY, please forgive me, PROFILE, REFLECTIONS
Yesterday was sunny and today is so cold and overcast. I stayed in bed alot yesterday, did a little cleaning.

Today, I am trying to do laundry, feels like the first time in at least 4 months, since my worker's death.


I am feeling really stressed, I really need a vacation ! I went for a walk down to the stores... it always feel

like a...
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Tags: My stalker and assailant remains free

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Posted by danusia007   in career MY CAREER, MY HEALING CIRCLE, PROFILE, REFLECTIONS
Trouble is part of your life,

and if you don't share it,

you don't give the person,

who loves you

enough chance

to love you enough.






Dinah Shore

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death of bf's dad

04 July 2007
Posted by danusia007   in cancer and ptsd, career MY CAREER, CLINICAL SERVICES health serv..., CLINICAL SERVICES housing, CLINICAL SERVICES support, support
I could not go to his funeral

I was flooding in abuse memories from ages 3 to 4 and age 8

and I was searching for stable counselling

bf starts affair with a co - worker

that he hid for over 2 years

a mutual friend told me

bf's dad :

was my emergency contact for work

was a reference on my resume

helped me out

with housing problems...
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Tags: Please share my grief a healing circle

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Posted by danusia007   in career and COLLEGE, career and UNIVERSITY, career MY CAREER, MY HEALING CIRCLE, MY HEALING CIRCLE sometimes a friend, My HEALING CIRCLE Virtual Parties, REFLECTIONS, support, The Power of Your Dreams
A listener,

A supporter,

A companion,

A sharer

Tags: Friend she needs hope and help

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In Canada

26 May 2007
Posted by danusia007   in career and COLLEGE, career and UNIVERSITY, career MY CAREER, CLINICAL SERVICES health serv..., CLINICAL SERVICES housing, CLINICAL SERVICES support, MY RAPIST, MY STALKER AND ASSAILANT, MY STORY
Being Lesbian or Gay

IS NOT A CRIME

BASHING IS !

Tags: My Rapist what was that look about ?

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LAPTOP PROBLEMS AGAIN

14 May 2007
Posted by danusia007   in career and COLLEGE, career and UNIVERSITY, career MY CAREER, support
I am having problems agai

Tags: Internet irritations

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Posted by danusia007   in career MY CAREER, career and COLLEGE, My Family MOM the delimna perp and survivor
My last year of work
the husband of my parent committee chair
was having an affair with another parent
Almost everyone knew except her
cuz they were having sex in their car
in the school parking lot
I was told by my supervisors to say nothing
I found it unsettling and triggering
Over the years since leaving work
I kept having these flashes about...
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Tags: mom perp and victim

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About my blog

This is basically my space to spill out everything I'm thinking and feeling.

Please note that some of the content here may be triggering.

What I write here is just me being honest with myself. Mostly just venting about things, realisations, and my path through healing.

There will be talk of CSA, SA, R, SI and ED here.

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