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26 May 2007
Posted by danusia007   in career and COLLEGE, career and UNIVERSITY, career MY CAREER, CLINICAL SERVICES health serv..., CLINICAL SERVICES housing, CLINICAL SERVICES support, MY RAPIST, MY STALKER AND ASSAILANT, MY STORY
Being Lesbian or Gay

IS NOT A CRIME

BASHING IS !

Tags: My Rapist what was that look about ?

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Show respect

25 May 2007
Posted by danusia007   in MY STORY, MY STALKER AND ASSAILANT, MY RAPIST, career and UNIVERSITY, career and COLLEGE, ACTIVIST, PROFILE
Without consent,

any sexual contact

including

touching, kissing and holding


is legally considered


sexual assault



ASK FIRST

NO MEANS NO


Beforre you

intitiate physical

or sexual contact


find out

what your partner wants

and RESPECT THEIR WISHES

Tags: My Rapist what was that look about ?

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Posted by danusia007   in MY STORY, MY STALKER AND ASSAILANT, MY RAPIST, career and UNIVERSITY, career and COLLEGE, ACTIVIST, PROFILE
NO means NO

Not now means no

I have a boyfriend/girlfriend means NO

Maybe later means NO

No thanks means NO

You're not my type means NO

$#@!!!! means NO


I'd rather be alone


right now means no



Don't touch me means NO

I really like you but.... means NO

Let's just go to sleep means NO

I'm not...
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Tags: My Rapist what was that look about ?

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LAPTOP PROBLEMS AGAIN

14 May 2007
Posted by danusia007   in career and COLLEGE, career and UNIVERSITY, career MY CAREER, support
I am having problems agai

Tags: Internet irritations

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Posted by danusia007   in career and COLLEGE, MY RAPIST, MY STALKER AND ASSAILANT
TRIGGER WARNINGS


Knees wanting to buckle

Panic attacks

Nightmares of my sister

the stalker and the rapist

Collapsing from lack of food

cuz your stalker has shown up

to look at bulletion boards

at the food service

not to eat

just to read bulletion boards

this agency did try to help me

obtain a peace bond

but the barrier was a...
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Tags: My stalker and assailant remains free

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My Stalker trigger Warnings

22 January 2007
Posted by danusia007   in career and COLLEGE, CLINICAL SERVICES housing, MY RAPIST, MY STALKER AND ASSAILANT, career and UNIVERSITY
My stalker first came into my life
at an agency that claimed
that they were helpng abused women
get on with their life
This agency later lost their funding
there was the usual donation room
for clothes
some computers
some food services where I volunteered
so did my stalker
a group for csa
where we were given
an overwhelming amount of reading...
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Tags: My stalker and assailant remains free

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Posted by danusia007   in career MY CAREER, career and COLLEGE, My Family MOM the delimna perp and survivor
My last year of work
the husband of my parent committee chair
was having an affair with another parent
Almost everyone knew except her
cuz they were having sex in their car
in the school parking lot
I was told by my supervisors to say nothing
I found it unsettling and triggering
Over the years since leaving work
I kept having these flashes about...
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Tags: mom perp and victim

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Secondary Woundings ongoing

19 January 2007
Posted by danusia007   in CLINICAL SERVICES support, CLINICAL SERVICES housing, CLINICAL SERVICES health serv..., career and COLLEGE, My Family SISTER, MY RAPIST, MY STALKER AND ASSAILANT
My sister died and I gave a speech in public
I wanted support
and got secondary wounding instead
people in my groups
harassed me
in the community
and with hang up calls
and blocking my access to services
while I was in the shocked state afterwards
my T took extra money from me
her book keeping was questionable
cuz I discovered the difference...
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Tags: Sister She tried to charge her perps

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Posted by danusia007   in MY STALKER AND ASSAILANT, MY RAPIST, My Family SISTER, CLINICAL SERVICES housing, career and UNIVERSITY, career and COLLEGE
I originally wrote this on my first Pandy birthday Oct 21 2006

My rapist was a survivor of CSA

My rapist wrote about rape in high school

I never did see that essay

I did get told that she was questioned
by her principal

My rapist was in my support group
It was a mixture of clients and counsellors

before the rapes

My rapist had visited my...
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Tags: My Rapist what was that look about ?

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Posted by danusia007   in career and COLLEGE
I was attending a program at college
I was volunteering at the women's center
There was an anti harassment campaign across the campus
I was postering around the campus and in my homeroom
I was giving class talks in my homeroom


The instructor and his assistant were both absent one morning
I had arrived late for homeroom
I sat down and waited...
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Tags: assaults at college

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Posted by danusia007   in career and COLLEGE, career and UNIVERSITY
One of the highest risk situations for sexual assault
(after the family) occurrs
when a woman is studying at college or university.

Even today I question how well trained
the counsellors(sp) are to assist women
when they are assaulted on the academic campus.


to be continued

Tags: assaults at university

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About my blog

This is basically my space to spill out everything I'm thinking and feeling.

Please note that some of the content here may be triggering.

What I write here is just me being honest with myself. Mostly just venting about things, realisations, and my path through healing.

There will be talk of CSA, SA, R, SI and ED here.

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