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I've been thinking a lot of my life lately, and all of the events that have happened which have made me who I am. When people have asked me if I have any regrets, I always have to think hard about that. The truth is, I don't know.
In some ways I wouldn't change a thing because I believe that everything happens for a reason. And I think there is far more opportunity to learn when things are difficult as opposed to when they're easy. After all, isn't it through our pain and suffering that we learn empathy and compassion? By going through hardship doesn't that enable us to be more understanding of others?
But then there are other times when part of me wishes certain things hadn't happened to me, or that I hadn't made certain decisions. Sometimes life feels like a game, and we're all trapped in it faced with rules not necessarily of our own making. Some of us have more cards than others, some of us have better ones. But the trick of the game is to learn how to get rid of what's holding you back, and how to attain what you need to get ahead.
I've never likes games, and I've always admired people who are straight forward or direct with me. I wear my own heart on my sleeve, which perhaps is why it gets crushed so often. I know I'm supposed to harden myself so that won't happen, but I can't. That's just not who I am. I've tried in the past, and all it does it make me numb to everything. You can't just block out some stuff and let it others, at least I can't. It's all or nothing. So I choose to feel the pain, just so long as I'm still able to feel the good things too.
In some ways I wouldn't change a thing because I believe that everything happens for a reason. And I think there is far more opportunity to learn when things are difficult as opposed to when they're easy. After all, isn't it through our pain and suffering that we learn empathy and compassion? By going through hardship doesn't that enable us to be more understanding of others?
But then there are other times when part of me wishes certain things hadn't happened to me, or that I hadn't made certain decisions. Sometimes life feels like a game, and we're all trapped in it faced with rules not necessarily of our own making. Some of us have more cards than others, some of us have better ones. But the trick of the game is to learn how to get rid of what's holding you back, and how to attain what you need to get ahead.
I've never likes games, and I've always admired people who are straight forward or direct with me. I wear my own heart on my sleeve, which perhaps is why it gets crushed so often. I know I'm supposed to harden myself so that won't happen, but I can't. That's just not who I am. I've tried in the past, and all it does it make me numb to everything. You can't just block out some stuff and let it others, at least I can't. It's all or nothing. So I choose to feel the pain, just so long as I'm still able to feel the good things too.
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