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My ex keeps sending me upsetting text messages today, with veiled threats. He keeps saying things sarcastically like he hopes I don't have to feel what he is feeling right now and that while for the moment he won't take our daughter away from me, he MIGHT change his mind at any time. He also made angry comments like he hopes me ending the marriage (which I did so I could have a chance of happiness in my life) has been worth destroying his life. It went on and on, with him even making low jabs about how I've had virtually no relationship with my father growing up so I supposedly don't understand his relationship to our daughter. I've always known how vindictive he can be, but was really hoping for civility.
The irony is that he's had almost no interest in her for most of her life. He wasn't a good father to her when we were together, and he was even showing signs of becoming abusive. I made the right decision moving away with her. But he will never agree with that. I've even told him that he can visit her whenever he likes, but because we live so far apart that's not good enough for him he says. And the fact that father's day is right around the corner is only going to rile him up more.
And if I'm being honest with myself, to my surprise I'm finding it easier by the day being apart from him. All I really care about is putting my life back together and creating a good home for my daughter. I wish he'd just leave us alone. I thought at first the divorce was going to be amicable, but then he informed me he wouldn't pay child support, and now I can tell he is gearing himself up to fight me for custody. What kind of man tries to tear a little girl away from her mother?
The only thing I can do is get my life in order quickly, and show that I can provide the better life for her. I just wish things didn't have to be so negative between my ex and I. But whatever happens I will never let him take my daughter away from me.
The irony is that he's had almost no interest in her for most of her life. He wasn't a good father to her when we were together, and he was even showing signs of becoming abusive. I made the right decision moving away with her. But he will never agree with that. I've even told him that he can visit her whenever he likes, but because we live so far apart that's not good enough for him he says. And the fact that father's day is right around the corner is only going to rile him up more.
And if I'm being honest with myself, to my surprise I'm finding it easier by the day being apart from him. All I really care about is putting my life back together and creating a good home for my daughter. I wish he'd just leave us alone. I thought at first the divorce was going to be amicable, but then he informed me he wouldn't pay child support, and now I can tell he is gearing himself up to fight me for custody. What kind of man tries to tear a little girl away from her mother?
The only thing I can do is get my life in order quickly, and show that I can provide the better life for her. I just wish things didn't have to be so negative between my ex and I. But whatever happens I will never let him take my daughter away from me.
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Sending you lots of 
and strength.
and strength.
lesley,
29 May 2012 - 07:26 AM
Thanks Lesley
Irishleo,
29 May 2012 - 05:55 PM
I'm sorry to hear this. My ex was also really vindictive. When I didn't sleep with him, he would take things away from me. If I had a daughter, I would fight for her too. I believe that you are the better parent. I believe that you're strong and that anyone in their right mind will be able to see your love for your daughter. You seem really great, Irishleo. Stay encouraged.
tpatt2008,
02 June 2012 - 08:47 AM
tpatt2008- thank you so much for your kind words, the support is a comfort to me during this diffcult time in my life.
Irishleo,
06 June 2012 - 07:33 PM
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