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But back to my point: If my uncle hadn't been telling me (as well as my other abuser at the babysitters house) that I was ruined and bad and that no one would ever love me, would I be a more confident, successful person? How much of our failures in life should be attributed to our sexual abuse, or our childhoods? Part of me feels like it's the easy excuse for the deficiencies in me. But on the other hand I do remember a brief time before the abuse, and I am a very different person because of it. Because of what they did to me.
So where is that person I would have been? Is she trapped inside of me, or was she destroyed by that monster? And to anyone reading this that has been abused, what do you think? Were YOU turned into someone else after being abused, or have you been able to remain true to yourself and find healing?