Since my flashbacks of what my uncle did to me began, I have gone through so many emotions from shock and upset, to sadness and rage. But more than anything, an unbearable desire to confront the monster about what he did to me. It's becoming something of an obsession to me, and I spend so much time imagining all sorts of confrontations with him, and what I might say. I'm afraid, but the desire to defend the small child I was then is stronger than my fear. No one protected me as a child, but I am grown now and I want to face my abuser.
How can I ever lead a normal life carrying this baggage around with me? I can't afford counseling, so I carry around all this pain and damage within me, and it's destroying me. I can't bear it.
This brings me to the advice I am seeking. I want to confront him, and will probably one get one chance to do so because once it's in the open things will get ugly. I don't expect him to admit to people what he's done to me and other children, so likely he will get defensive and aggressive. While statutes of limitations protect him from any jail time regarding my case, I have no doubt there are others he's probably molesting now that he could still go to prison for. I don't want to lose other family members by revealing the truth, but I can't live with this secret inside me. He is an evil man, and very capable of violence, so I don't think it would be safe to meet him alone. How should I confront him and what should I say?