We are survivors, damn it!
And so for the longest time the label that others applied to me was 'victim'. I guess I can see where they were coming from. At the times when others would call me that it felt true. I was a wreck for so many years and for that time period I would have to say that label was accurate.
It wasn't until I found Pandy's that someone called me a survivor. That was an amazing moment for me. It signaled a change in mentality and drive to get better. I am at the point now that I feel completely like a survivor, I have even recently been able to say, and mean it, that I am FINALLY okay. It is an amazing transformation, not unlike a caterpillar into a butterfly.
Here is what is getting to me lately...I keep hearing people just casually throw around the words 'survive' and 'survivor'. Those are OUR WORDS. In my mind they belong to those of us who have gone through SA, CSA or any other form for that matter. Sure there are other forms of survival but I think it is a given that, say, a car crash survivor is a survivor. I am more talking about the people that will casually say they 'survived' the day at work, or 'survived' the weekend, or what have you.
I am sorry if this seems a bit petty but, to me, if you just had to work a little harder then you DID NOT survive the day at work, you did your job. I think if you have gone through trauma then you can say you survived something, otherwise people probably need to choose their words more wisely.
I have compassion for someone having a bad day, don't get me wrong but....
WE ARE SURVIVORS, DAMN IT!
Okay I feel better now, just needed to vent...