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But, I am excited/scared about something else. I went out for coffee tonight. With a guy. He seems very nice and he is very much a gentleman, which is nice. I didn't feel any "warning bells" going off, I wasn't triggered, it was a pretty nice date. But I wonder sometimes if my reactions to things are off. Sometimes even one of my close friends can touch me and I jump. I don't even know I'm doing it. They tell me about it afterward. So, if I don't know I'm doing something, how do I stop it? Did I do something like that tonight? I don't think so. He wants to get together again. He is a hugger, which is OK, but I have to be careful with that. I haven't said anything yet about the SA. It's too soon I guess. When is the right time? Gosh, I am in a tizzy. He is nice and smart and polite. Of course, that doesn't necessarily mean anything. But, no creepy behavior, it was very different than I am used to which is a good thing. Forgive my bluntness, but I thought my ex bf was the only guy on the planet that didn't want to screw on the first date. Which is why losing him was so hard. I was wondering how to find another decent guy. Seems like I may have found one. TAKING IT SLOW! That is my motto nowadays.