this will probably trigger, but is important to me
Speaking of my husband -- he had been really pushing for me to press charges, but I brought it up in my group therapy, and the advice was to contact the family (because I know how to) and tell them what happened, and let them decide the consequences. They may write and say they don't believe me, or that it never happened according to the perpetrators, but I think I can take that in stride. I know it happened, I know it's the truth, I know I said stop, I know they didn't listen.
I finally wrote down the whole event, but I'm not sure I'm ready to post it here yet.