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Thank you all for your caring and support. Thank you who stayed up with me last night while I was sleepless.
Therapy was helpful in a not therapy way. My T shared with me with tears in her eyes about her 19 year old daughter who is currently homeless over where the Colorado fires are. She has a crappy rich boyfriend who is 'out of country' right now but he loves her and will help her out when he returns. So she is living in her car or couch jumping and trying to go to college. So my T knows exactly how I am feeling right now.
My daughter has not contacted me but Fake Jake has. He told me that she is out of the hospital and he left at the college while he attempts to get their stuff from the apartment they were kicked out of. Jake states that Niki holds no grudge against me she is just embarrassed by all that has happened and is processing it all.
I asked what their plan was. He said that he is going to cash his paycheck then rent a car and head my way. I asked him if he knew that he cannot stay with me. He understood. I asked where he was going to stay then? He is trying to get ahold of some friends he made down here (I have no idea who that would be) and see if he could stay with them for awhile. I said fine as long as he understood he cannot stay here.
I don't see how they going to rent a car but whatever. My t told me I would be doing an injustice to them if I gave in. I cannot give in cuz my mother 'forbids' me to allow him to stay even one night. My t says that no matter how hard it is they are adults and my daughter will figure it out herself.
So maybe my daughter will be home tonight and maybe not. Either way I am not happy about any of this. I am angry cuz it would not be happening at all if Fake Jake never had been in the picture. As my t reminded me my daughter made these choices as an adult so she will have to live by them. No I am not happy and I am quite sad.
The positive side is that I participate in DBT which will help me not dwell on all this to the point I spiral downward. I will attempt to stay focused on all the things I have going in the next two weeks which is mostly on my health issues.
Blessings to all
Therapy was helpful in a not therapy way. My T shared with me with tears in her eyes about her 19 year old daughter who is currently homeless over where the Colorado fires are. She has a crappy rich boyfriend who is 'out of country' right now but he loves her and will help her out when he returns. So she is living in her car or couch jumping and trying to go to college. So my T knows exactly how I am feeling right now.
My daughter has not contacted me but Fake Jake has. He told me that she is out of the hospital and he left at the college while he attempts to get their stuff from the apartment they were kicked out of. Jake states that Niki holds no grudge against me she is just embarrassed by all that has happened and is processing it all.
I asked what their plan was. He said that he is going to cash his paycheck then rent a car and head my way. I asked him if he knew that he cannot stay with me. He understood. I asked where he was going to stay then? He is trying to get ahold of some friends he made down here (I have no idea who that would be) and see if he could stay with them for awhile. I said fine as long as he understood he cannot stay here.
I don't see how they going to rent a car but whatever. My t told me I would be doing an injustice to them if I gave in. I cannot give in cuz my mother 'forbids' me to allow him to stay even one night. My t says that no matter how hard it is they are adults and my daughter will figure it out herself.
So maybe my daughter will be home tonight and maybe not. Either way I am not happy about any of this. I am angry cuz it would not be happening at all if Fake Jake never had been in the picture. As my t reminded me my daughter made these choices as an adult so she will have to live by them. No I am not happy and I am quite sad.
The positive side is that I participate in DBT which will help me not dwell on all this to the point I spiral downward. I will attempt to stay focused on all the things I have going in the next two weeks which is mostly on my health issues.
Blessings to all
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I am also glad to hear that she is doing better. You know we are all here for you, to help keep you focused and not dwell. I don't want to see you spiral downward.
As hard as it is, as your T said, yes, your daughter is an adult, and has made these choices. But at the same time, I know it makes you sad, and I am sorry.
Stay strong to your position about him not staying at your house, because that is a way that you are taking good care of you.
I am here for you, at any time, if you need to talk or just want to vent. Anything I can do for you, my friend.
Blessings to you, and tons of love and hugs.
here for you.