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I keep thinking about a nice elderly lady in my DBT class. She is quiet and has a lovely smile. She approached me after class this last Thursday. I think she was attempting to be friends. A good thing I believe yet what she shared with me has disturbed me a little.
She told me that 20 years ago she started having frightening nightmares nightly. Like an intelligent woman she sought out a therapist. It was determined in her therapy she was a survivor of CSA. She healed from that with that therapist. A couple of years ago in going over family history with some of her family she realized that she was never abused as a child. So now she is in therapy to heal from all the false memories that were given to her by the first therapist.
No matter how I look at this it is just so wrong. Either she is in complete denial regarding any abuse which seems unlikely or the therapist she had should be hung by her tongue for doing that kind of damage to a human being. This would mean that the lady was healed of nothing and the therapist is now the abuser. It's appalling.
I guess the lady could also be completely insane and made up the entire story.
IDK.
It is friggin hot in my house tonight (cooler broken and no money to get it fixed). Thank goodness I have 3 medium fans. It is suppose to be cooler tomorrow.
Blessings to all
She told me that 20 years ago she started having frightening nightmares nightly. Like an intelligent woman she sought out a therapist. It was determined in her therapy she was a survivor of CSA. She healed from that with that therapist. A couple of years ago in going over family history with some of her family she realized that she was never abused as a child. So now she is in therapy to heal from all the false memories that were given to her by the first therapist.
No matter how I look at this it is just so wrong. Either she is in complete denial regarding any abuse which seems unlikely or the therapist she had should be hung by her tongue for doing that kind of damage to a human being. This would mean that the lady was healed of nothing and the therapist is now the abuser. It's appalling.
I guess the lady could also be completely insane and made up the entire story.
IDK.
It is friggin hot in my house tonight (cooler broken and no money to get it fixed). Thank goodness I have 3 medium fans. It is suppose to be cooler tomorrow.
Blessings to all
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It seems people are attracted to you and are able to "share" easily there stuff.
One of the golden rules of DBT is that you are there for YOU - it is a space where the only important person you need to think about is yourself. Some of the healing takes place with the interaction of others, so if for example you are naturally a helper, it is about not helping the other person in the group so that all of your energy is spent on you.
If you have children, then you would know that during your pregnancy there were other mothers who love to share all of the most horrific stories of their own pregnancies - this will also happen in DBT.
Shield yourself from such stories. You have enough pain and suffering to deal with of your own and you are attending DBT to find ways to cope with them differently. The negative stories clog up your mind and slow down your healing journey.
And BTW - the nice elderly lady is still having issue or else she would not be in the DBT class, so I agree with your guess that she is actually in denial of what may have happened to her.
And I will trade some of our very chilly winds for some of your heat at the moment.
Have a wonderful day.
J.
I don't know if that makes any sense and certainly makes me sound wierd I guess.
That being said I like that you keep reminding me DBT is for my healing and my journey not getting involved in other's journeys. I do get distracted. Helping me stay on tract is a kind thing for you to do and I do appreciate it. I do like the class and learning new things.
Many Blessings